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I'm 40 years old mom, my 2children ages 8 and 13 are victims of their father who can not accept our separation In France Parental Alienation is not recongnized by justice We can not speak about that, we have to go in front of the Judge without prononce this term But how to explain that your child you love you take care how explain they refused to speak with you, to say hello and insult you. my son has broken a skate board on me when i have tried to say him i want to stop this horror . I can not accept to stop my visit, at his house or at school I can not accept to give up, i can not accept to do nothing Stop to try to love my children is not acceptable! I will diffuse posters for april the 25 in my village to inform all the people who believe what my husband say about me I m a bad mother I can swear i was not a bad mother I can swear i love my chikdren I can swear I want the better for them Thank you for this website If i can help from my little France I will help be all courageous. |
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http://FathersWhoCare.blogspot.com Both Glenn and Jeff are fully aware of my efforts to help share my story which is getting out - in spite of the efforts to block my message that Lawyers are the problem within the Family Law system - as it continues to allow them to make the rules and hurt parents and children - everyday...by it continued tactics of hate for one another ina family law setting over money in legal fees - needlessly. You might see why my message has been silenced in the past but was recently published in USA Today. Thank you Glenn and Jeff for helping me and my son. |
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My daughter, now 15, has been systematically alienated from me by my ex-spouse and her parents. My ex-wife and I separated in 1999 and divorced in 2001, when my daughter was 9 and 11, respectively. At the time of separation, my ex took out several restraining orders (all of which were eventually dismissed)and kept me from seeing my kids for a month. When I established a custodial routine, my kids would report to me consistently how my ex and her parents often "bad-mouthed" me. In about 2002, on the day that I was to take my son (then 5) on a brief camping trip, my ex and her parents got both of my kids to allege that I abused them. These allegations were eventually determined to be groundless by the local police, the court, a court-appointed GAL and the Department of Social Services. When my ex then had my son strapped to a board and taken to a mental hospital for throwing a rather typical chilhood tantrum, the court had enough and ordered that my son should live me with me full time.
Shortly thereafter my daughter began alleging that I was responsible for keeping her from seeing her allegedly "dying" grandfather, who is still alive and in Australia. When I offer to show her court documents which can establish that I have done no such thing, and that I never abused my children, she refuses to listen or look at the documents. Her mother has stopped sending her to therapy and my daughter will not let me find her a decent therapist. My daughter refuses to spend any time with me or to even speak with me on the phone, repeating the canard that I have kept her from seeing her grandfather who is allegedly "dying." Her grandfather, according to court documents filed by my ex, has been allegedly "near death" for at least 3 years, and last summer was well enough to visit the United States. Not surprisingly, the current round of problems with my daughter happens to coincide with the timing of that visit. When my son returns from his infrequent visits with his mother (she refuses to see him most of the time) he tells me (without my asking) that his mother and sister constantly refer to me in profane terms and continue to make allegations against me that my son knows to be untrue. My son also told me that after spending time with his Australian grandparents and uncle last summer he was struck by how much they hated me and were willing to repeatedly express that anger.
I have not seen my daughter for 3.5 months now and I am losing my relationship with her, which had been a wonderful one. Perhaps more importantly, my daughter is also losing her relationship with her brother. He only sees her when he visits his mother, since my daughter is not coming to my place anymore. I have written to my daughter asking her to telephone or e-mail her brother, but she refuses to do so. |
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My ex-wife who comenced divorce proceedings. I fought first to halt the divorce and when that failed to quicken it to get it over with for everyone's benefit so the healing could begin. My wife and her attorney fought and drew out proceeedings for close to 2 years, just increasing needless pain. I fought from day one to have adequate visitations which she always objected too. After divorce I moved from Hawaii to Florida for a job because the environment was so negative and anti father in Hawaai. My ex-has refused since her divorce was granted in 2002 to ever let the children visit me on the Mainland or to visit my Dad saying I could only visit if I came to Hawaii. That takes time and money. Upon leaving Hawaii for Florida, she also stopped sharing the kids school grades, pics, etc. the divorce decree told her to share. The only contact I had was by telephone or a letter/card from the kids now and then. Then in 2003-4 when I called and I heard her voice in the background while talking to the kids, she did nothing when the children became rude on the phone.
Last year, in 2005, my oldest daughter said she like to get together. I was in 7th heaven. I arranged for us to meet in California and spent a weekend at Disneyland-something she always wanted to do again. At the last minute my ex-intervened, I was in California to meet my daughter but she never showed up-I learned because Mom thought my daughter should study during the Spring break. Now, its like writing to Santa-I send letters and emails and never get a reply. No birthday cards. No thank you for presents. Nothing. Just last week, my youngest, a 14 yrs old boy, blamed me for all of Mom's problems, then slammed the phone down. I love my kids. I am constantly sharing that love in letters to them and letting them know that the door is open, whenever they want I'm here for them. Don't know what else to do. For years I coached all my kids and their friends in soccer, took them to the beach, on outings, trips, camping and now that's all gone. All there is left is the memories. It's painful. |
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I have been systematically eliminated from my child now past 8 years. My child has been hidden from me for the last 4 years by a vicious mother that has another agenda to take my life. My child has been totally "Alienated" from me by the same mother that will lie in any way she wants to get her way from a court that is bought and paid for by an attorney that advertises with the judge on the Internet.
I have done nothing ever to hurt, abuse or never anything unlawful (always paid my child support but they have at this point stolen over $100,000 in extra money from me) against my former spouse or my child which is causing me great pain. My health is failing dramatically because of the fraud, perjury, denial of Due Process, denail to have an attorney, theft by extortion and making me indigent. I have had 3 friends die or be murdered by judges in the state of New Jersey and I fear for my life as you read this e-mail. This is a GENOCIDE against fathers and children in America. The criminals must be made legally ACCOUNTABLE for their crimes of treason, tyranny, above the law and Constitution and even above the Hitler and Rwanda Genocide. If anyone can help, please do. Children need both parents not just the criminal custodial parent that is teaching our children to be more criminals. |
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I have gone 25 months since 9/93 with no contact with my daughter. All of this is because my ex mother in law got my daughter to say, "daddy made pee pee on me." when she was 4 yr. old. This launched a criminal investigation that threatened me with prison, loss of license to practice medicine, and civil liability (which mommy would be happy to file against me on my daughter&'s behalf.) No criminal charges were filed and of course the judge, way in over his head (a corporate attorney 6 months earlier with no training, credentials, or experience with false allegations of abuse) hid behind the statement, "if one must err, one must err on the side of the safety of the child." He acted like he was a "hero" because he put the safety of the child first.
Naturally, the fact that a mother who is incapable of having a normal relationship with a man is raising my child in a father absent environment was of no concern to him. I launched a custody trial trying to protect my daughter from the abuses of the system. My attorney got me what he considered to be the "best expert in the world, spare no money". His name is Richard Gardner, MD. In the words of the family court social worker, he "wrote the book on true and false allegations of child sex abuse." Meantime mommy had 15 months to alienate my daughter against me by telling her that I was "naughty" and "why else would the judge side with her?" Dr. Gardner opined that I should be given liberal placement and that mommy was guilty of PAS (parental alienation syndrome). Mommy's expert opined that I suffered from transient psychosis and of course molested my daughter. Her court appointed attorney; (fresh out of law school) hired an expert at my expense. He opined that I suffered from paranoid schizophrenia and of course molested her. There was no physical evidence and I passed a polygraph test (inadmissible). The judge took the side of the system and ruled Gardner as not credible. He justified his ruling by saying that I was "angry" and "had lost it". What exactly he means by this, I have no clue.
What they did was bash me in the face and then tell me I am "angry" for reacting by fighting. Following this, my attorney filed a civil suit against my daughter s attorney and his expert for intentional infliction of emotional damage. They are immune. I had to pay them $70,000 or go to jail. Recently, I was hauled into court and held in contempt merely for exercising my freedom of speech by publicizing my horror story. They wanted to throw me in jail for 30 days with no work release, causing me to lose my job, fall behind in my child support payments which would then automatically disallow me from renewing my license to practice medicine, and create the criminal they so want to create. (The criminalization of fathers). The only reason they can't is because they know I will appeal. I have in the past appealed decisions; however, the appellate court made it clear that they will stick up for the judge unless he makes an obvious blunder (I hope that means throwing a law abiding, child support paying dad in jail merely for exercising his freedom of speech). I have no "skeletons" in my closet. No arrest record, history of mental disorders. I am 44 years old with a CV as long as your arm. Your basic success story. The fact that my father died when I was 6 and was raised by my mother was used against me as if somehow someway, that meant I was sexually deviant. How can this happen? I am literally and figuratively speaking impotent to do anything but try to change the system so that the next person won&'t have it so tough.
My story happens all the time. The only difference between me and 99% of other victims is that I have the will and the means to fight. They want me to either walk away as most people in my shoes do, or agree to go to "therapy" by their hand picked "therapist". I can't ask what I am being treated for because they won't tell me. They just want to cover their rear incase any of this pops up in the future they can justify their actions by saying "of ! ! course he molested her, why else would he have agreed to go for therapy?" They would then trot out their handpicked "therapist" and ask him/her to state what exactly they gave me therapy for. The answer of course would then be, "for molesting his daughter." This is how the game is played.
When I am allowed contact, I must be strictly supervised by the same supervisor since 11/94 who. She charges $45 per hour. My 86 year old mother, my 47 year old sister and her 3 children must also be supervised at all times at my expense. My current wife, a kindergarten teacher and Master&'s Degree professional and her 9-year-old daughter are not allowed to be alone with my daughter. I must pay her in advance, or I don't see my daughter. When on the visits, she must remain within earshot at all times and I am strictly forbidden to say or do anything about mommy, her family, the court or its agents, child support etc etc etc. In addition, I must remain in a public place at all times. If I disobey the order, I go to jail for 30 days with no work release. Naturally, Mommy was allowed to move back home to her mother in Illinois, which requires me to pay $200 in adva! ! nce for travel cost and time just to get to Illinois, time spent with my daughter is of course extra and at my expense. Overnights or vacations away are strictly forbidden. When allowed, contact averages 6-9 hours per month. Child support is set at $5,123.00 per month for one child paid to a physician mother who uses the money to pay experts and attorneys to keep me from my daughter. Recently, the Racine County Child Support Division won an award as being the second most efficient division in the State. As one of their cases I can say that divorce and custody determination is a winner take all battle that encourages conflict, hurts children, and deprives them of the parental involvement they need and deserve from both parents.
As a result of being raised in a father absent environment, research has shown that my daughter will suffer an increased chance of teenage pregnancy, behavioral disorders, alcohol and drug abuse, suicide, adult depression, low self esteem, and problems with adult male relationships among other problems. A strong physical presence of the biologic father in a child's life helps to protect against these ills. Wisconsin may be the dairy state, but fathers are not cash cows. How would you like it if your child was taken from you against your will, allowed to move out of state, and your "parenting time" limited to a handful of supervised hours per month? How and why does this happen? There are several reasons, but the most compelling reason is because counties receive federal matching funds for every dollar of child support assessed, whether dad pays or not. Money is more important to the system than parental involvement.
At this time, I'd like to take partial credit for this award as my contribution of over $410,000.00 to date in child support assessed for one child is paid in full. This means that according to their statement, "more children in our county are receiving the support they are entitled to and which they need, and that means less reliance on public support or non-profit agencies or private charities. These children are receiving better housing, better nutrition and more stability because both their parents are taking proper responsibility for them." You're welcome, Racine County Child Support Division and thank you very little. I apologize for being so lengthy, but you asked for it. God bless you and I wish you well. |
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I was on active duty in the U.S. army when I divorced my first wife. She in turn abducted our son, to Germany. I never saw him again. I left the service and became an attorney because of this crisis. However, nothing replaced the loss of my little boy. He in turn neither wrote nor called. Letters sent to his home address where never answered. |
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My Story : I am a divorced father who had court ordered visitation with my children. Over the years I have paid child support except for a 1 year period when I was unemployed. I have two children, a son who is 16 and a daughter who is 12. I have not seen my son since he was a baby. His mother moved out of state on the same day the child support order was finalized. She also refused to show up at the visitation hearing with the courts. I used to have her address and phone number but two years ago my mail begin to be returned and the phone was disconnected. She still has family in the city I live in and visits them so I have been told. I have asked her in the past about being allowed to exercise my visitation rights with my son and she indicated that she was agreeable, yet she has done nothing to try and cooperate with me in doing so. The courts have told me that since she lives out of state there is nothing they can do to enforce the visitation. My 12 year old daughter lives with my ex-wife. They live within 2 miles of me. I have court ordered visitation with her also. When I tried to exercise my visitation with her my ex slammed the door in my face in front of my daughter. When I took the police I didn't have the divorce decree outlining the visitation so they did nothing. I can talk on the phone with my daughter but only if it's at a time that her mother wishes or if my daughter answers the phone. Her mother has hung up the phone on me numerous times when I have called and asked for my daughter which is in violation of our visitation agreement. I try to get involved with school problems my daughter has experienced but her mother refused to even discuss anything with me and the schools say they cannot give me any information because her mother has told them not to. With both of my children, I am paying child support and paying for family medical benefits which take up a large portion of my income and has never been refused by either my son's mother or my ex-wife. This makes it seem as if my financial support is wanted, but my support as a father is not..... Please note, my son's mother was not a woman who I was fooling around with while married. We had a relationship before I met and married my ex-wife. I do not want people to think that I was just trying to populate the world.
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long story short...ex-wife refused to allow my four girls to communicate, or see me, and is still doing so. It has been 10 years since I have seen my littlest daughter. I was not invited to the wedding of my oldest daughter. The girls are under constant threat not to mention my name or communicate with me, nor see me. Previously, it was "no-pay/no play", but now since the money issue can no longer be used as a ploy, it is just nasty, vindictive, hateful behavior. I believe the ex's addictions, past and present, surely contribute to her behavior. The family court system allows this behavior, even encourages it, due to the lack of any system of checks or balances. |
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My ex-girlfriend and I have a 3 yr. old daughter together. We have been separated though since she was 1 1/2 yrs old. The mother now lives in Waco, Texas and I in Dallas, TX. There is no formal custody yet because she's not in school. I get her 2 wks and her mom gets her 2 wks. Almost every other time the mother doesn't give her back. Then following that conversation, the mother will have my daughter call and tell me things like "I don't want to come back to your house. I don't want to see you ever again." "You are mean to me because you make me take naps and put me in daycare." It tears me up inside but deep down I know it's just the mother being immature and alienating our daughter from me.
My daughter is treated like she deserves to be treated when she's here with me in Dallas. She has her own room, bed, bathroom, ton of toys & movies. She doesn't have all those things at her mom's but yet she still seems to be brainwashed into thinking I'm the bad person. What's a father who cares immensely to do? I'm hoping one day, even if I don't get custody of her that she will realize how much I did for her and how much I love her. |
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I was in a situation where my ex wife took off with my child about christmas 1992,I was at work and she had destroyed all of the things, while i was at work. I came home that evening and found she was gone. After that she took off with my child back to her home state.And i tryed contacting them and finally did.So i took a trip out there and got my child from her,then she came back and took off with my child again.
Then I had not seen my child since she was 5 yrs old.Then when my ex sisterinlaw got guardinship of them i never saw my daughter up until 3yrs ago saying she was back in state custody.I was so devastated of not knowing where my child was or if she was being taken care of. Until i saw her again 3 yrs ago.Now i can only talk to her on the phone she is still in state custody,and we speak every week.So if it was not for this i would not have contact with my daughter. |
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LONG STORY, short version: My x-wife has been diagnosed with a paranoid personality disorder, and has systematically alienated our 2 children from me, and my family, over the past several years. In the eyes of our children i am to blame for all that has happened and i have 'ruined their lives' ! My x has no family remaining(parents deceased, an only child), and is basically (ab)using the children to meet her own emotional needs. My x filed a false PFA against me to have me taken out our home, and then subsequently divorced me. (a blessing in disguise!) BUT, by the grace of GOD, and perseverance and much prayer, our 15yo son is now in my full custody with NO contact with his 'mother', while a custody evaluation is to be conducted, per my request/court order. However my 18yo daughter, remains sadly, cruelly and unjustly alienated and brainwashed by her controlling manipulative intimidating mother,(and may even have an eating disorder), as a result of the FOG(fear, oppression, guilt) she has been living under, for over 5 long years now.
I do not know how to convince/'rescue' our daughter (and son, for that matter) They need to have the scales removed from their eyes and hearts, to be able to see the truth of this twisted life and half-truths/lies they have been told for TOO long... I can only keep #1 praying, #2 loving them, and #3 showing them love and patience... They are living in oppressive slavery, a 'village', as depicted by the movie "The Village", by M Night 'Shamylan'. They are living under an unfounded "FEAR" --- "False Evidence Appearing Real" !!! GOD will free them in HIS timing, from this wickedness... Time for healing is needed, and GOD is the HOPE against all HOPE ! Thank you for your time and for reading my(our) story... |
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My Story : To whom it may concern: On January, 29th, 2003,A School-Principal, a CPS-worker, and a Washington County Sheriff's Deputy [Washington County, Utah] entered into a U.S. Code TITLE 18, Sec. 241 (conpiracy against rights) against myself and my family. The resulting police incursion alienated me and my wife (The Natural Parents) of our 8 1/2 year old son for 60 days. We were arrested on a presumption of "Child Abuse" and when we resisted an unlawful arrest, they (The attacking sheriff's) charged me and my wife with Felony Charges, and retained us for an ungodly amount of Bail. On December 4th, 2003, A Fifth-District Juvenile Court Judge, terminated our Parental Rights, on no more than the opinions of the so-called "experts." These people, including public pretenders intentionally fabricated and acted upon a consciencely decided genocide of myself and family. My wife and I had never been accused of abuse or neglect until we sent our son to Public School. The last Day we (The natural parents) were permitted to see our son was December 17th, 2003, and we have heard through the grape vine that he has now been shuffled to his fourth foster home. Is there anybody who can challenge these malevolent people?
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My Story : I am a stay at home day and have been the primary caregiver for my two children and stepchild for over four years. As of late my partner and I were not seeing eye to eye aobut finances and turned into me being a mentally and physicaly abusive spouse and father. We went to see a phcycologist to what i thought was patch up out relationship and work on our problems. Turns out she wanted me to be assesed for anger management issues. First thing she said was that we have been separated for over 2 months and were just living together. Did not see that coming or feel that way as we were still sharing the same bed. This was all followed by how she did not feel safe around me and that she feared for the kids. I am completely beside myself at this point. I knew the possibillity of us breaking up was there and no very real at this point. But she was making me out to be a monster. She has been telling people that i kick my dog and that I push and smack my step-daughter around. She even went as far as saying that she thought she heard me shaking the baby, my one year old son the only other male in the house. I couldnt believe all of the stuff coming out of her mouth. As soon as I left the meeting it became all to clear what had happened. From her packing extra clothes for the kids as she set up her mom to take the kids while we were at this meeting. The packing of abnormally extra diapers for the morning. Turns out this has been planned out for some time. I spoke to my daughter last night and she told me that mommy her brother and her were moving into there grandparents house. I have been left broken hearted and with out my children that i have cared for since there very first breath. From the time I witnessed them come into this world I was there for them. There mother would work right up until the very end of the pregnancy and then a couple of months after be right back to work. I am managing a modest home based business that allows me to stay home with the kids. I bottle fed both of them as soon as there mom was ready to work and pump the breast milk. I take the kids to the park just about everyday depending on weather. I take the youngest two swimming three times a week while the oldest is in school. I make sure they have healthy meals three times a day plus snacks. I do wverything in my abilities to keep them safe from harm. I have been teaching my three year old daughter, my little angel, numbers and the alphabet with flash cards and rewards. Everyone that i have ever run into that sees me with my kids and knows that I am a stay at home dad says how wonderful it is for what I am doing and what a good job i have done as the kids are so well behaved. I feel like i just had my heart ripped out and stolen from.
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My Story : My partner has been a victim of PAS ever since he split up with his wife in 2001. His ex-wife has routinely told his children that he doesn't love them anymore, that he abandones them and that he doesn't support them financially - none of which are true. She has also talked to the children about the divorce and involved them in things that they should never have been party to at their tender age. As a result of her mind games my eldest step-son is severly damaged and has developed an eating disorder, the eldest daughter has severe behavioural problems and the youngest lacks self-esteem and is very introverted. It's so sad as my poor partner has had to go through the courts to even be able to see his children and she still doesn't stick to the court order. The only real losers in this situation are her children who will carry this baggage throughout their lives. In England there is no acknowledgement of PAS in the courts and they very often favour the parent with care over the parent applying for contact. Hopefully PAS will become more publicised over here and Judges in the Family Courts will begin to realise it actually exists.
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My Story : Puede que mi hijo fuera víctima de atentados contra la libertad sexual, tenía por entonces 5 años. Como dicta la ley, y tras un largo recorrido por distintos profesionales -médicos, abogados, conserjerias, los cuales miraban hacia otro lado por ser incorrectamente politico- decidí ponerlo en conocimiento del juzgado nº4 de Linares. La titular del mismo, ahora ascendida a magistrada lo manipuló todo, iniciando los tramites oportunos, pero acusandome a mi. El resultado fue que el padre biológico fue acusado de tal extremo, hecho provocado al obligar la madre a declarar al menor en contra de su padre, como viene ocurriendo desde hace cinco años.Al final se descubrio mi inocencia. Me han robado los ilustres abogados, aprovechandose de un padre en situación limite para robar sus ahorros y los de su anciana madre. Han sido varios intentos de suicidio que ya llevo, con la mala suerte de no lograr mi objetivo, tan solo recibí instrucciones para no fracasar en la siguiente. No lo haré. Gracias a que no camino 10 metros en esta cloaca de niniciudad sin ser insultado ni vejado no dejo de pensar en lo mismo, solo me frena el cómo se sntirá mi hijo tras mi fallecimiento y de si no se culpará el mismo al haber sido obligado tantas veces a declarar contra su padre, al que quiere, en los juzgados. No se cuanto tiempo podre aguantar. Me han robado a mi familia, mi economía, mi honor, y por si quedara poco tambien en el trabajo, pues la familia de la ex se ha encargado de publicitar los autos de alejamiento de mi hijo, obsoletos, por toda la ciudad, casa por casa. En definitiva, creo me han matado ya, a mi hijo y a mi. Enhorabuena. No soy el unico, conozco muchos casos como el mio. Es la metodologia que se emplea en la Administracion de justicia. Si tubiera que contar todo lo que nos han hecho necesitaría muchos dias. Gracias a los comites de linchamiento por nuestro asesinato.
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My son has been divorced from his wife of 7 years. Their relationship goes back much further. They had a daughter together just out of high school, broke up for 2 years and then reunited, married and had 2 sons. Last year my son filed for divorce. Even while they were married she and her family played mind games with the children. After they seperated, she would tell them what a loser their Dad was and tell them that they did not have to go with him for visitation if they did not want to.
She continues to maline both my son and his entire family to the children. I am accused of being a bad grandmother because I don't spend enough money on them. She lies about her work schedule depriving him of court ordered visitation and then tells the kids that he was out drinking and did not want to see them. She calls him an alcoholic to his children and maligns any of the people that he associates with. She most recently called DCFS and accused him of physically abusing the children. Now we have that to deal with on top of all of her other actions. |
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I am a 46 year old Man who waited until the age of 38 to get married and at 39 God blessed us with a prescious baby girl and a very comfortable living as I winded down to the final 5 years of my "Sea-Going Engineering Carreer" Take my pension BUY -OUT and enjoy a family life without 4 months sea-duty and 4 months home routine.
My wife appeared to be the dream wife-mother partner untill she was natauralized and I paid her mother's way into the USA to meet her Granddaughter,then 3 . Upon her arrival started the plunge of our life,as arguments went louder and louder I was a stranger in my own home and often looked foreward to going back on ship to get away from them.I gained a wonderfull relationship with my 3 year old daughter and this was not acceptable to my wife she rejected this and her plans were initiated by causing a violent scene in front of our child and attempted to put my eyes out she attacked me as I was blinded fri=om her fingers into my eye sockets and face and eyes bleeding all over the house as our daughter I heard crying DADDY and she ranout the door with the child and called 911 from a neighbors home the police arrested her and took her to JAIL and I was temporarily blinded for 2 days as my child nursed my wounds and cared for me.
When I got my wife out of jail I told her her Mother was out of our home and again a brutally psychotic creature arrupted in her and this time she out of the blue lurched back and cried ouch! and grabed our child and left.2 weeks later without hearing from her I was concerned and mad as hell and was in line to file my divorce pappers when I was served a Temporary Protective Order........ She had LIED to the womans shelter people and I was a bad guy now and i was falsly acused of attacking her and the shelter personel moved her from the shelter to a subsidized home and I was ordered to stay away.
I did and then as my heart broke for my little girl I was arrested for giving my daughter a birthday gift with a card I wrote on and this was a violation of the Order my CRUEL WIFE and HER CROOK attorney fought hell bent to get me in jail for and the female judge ," AS SPITEFULL AS MY WIFE" put me in jail. I lost my personel security clearance and was deemed UN-HIREABLE by the contractors to my UNION and was debriefed and dismissed. 27 years of pension gone and now with a police record for contempt of court guess what the wifes attorney wants? MONEY!!!! Ha Ha Yeah the imbesiles are attempting to ex-propriate me from my lifes savings as they commit hard core PAS with the COURT PROMOTING and inforcing it.
My little girl is six now and we sold our home and she has moved three or four times in first grade and the momma has brainwashed her and I only get phone calls occasionally to hear my daughter say she HATES ME!!! What kind of mother and ambulance chasing thief attorney could bare to look in the mirror as they do this to this poor child!!!!!!!!!!
I fought for this country and I felt strong that we had a good system but I am hanging by a thread as to the corrupt and criminal displacing of children here in southern nevada and the judicial misconduct! I get a lot of good from your association and I could not bare it without your support groups. Sincerely praying to GOD for a change in family court venue.
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I was present with the birth of my daughter, june 1995. I have seen her coming in this world. I was proud and enjoyed every day and every moment we shared regularly and bounded during the first 5,5 years of her life. She loved being with me and visiting her grandparents and other familymemebers and friends with me. Doing all the normal things, all those years. I love her.
Then, early 2001, the mother decided to hold her solely for herself, by falsely accusing me of sexual abuse.. My breath was taken away and my heart seemed to stop. This has been investigated and not been found to have any ground. This took 6 months.. After that you think the contact will be restored, but not so. The mother refused everything and a horrible period of trial and 'investigating' took place, the most time wasted by waiting on procedures.. on the court..
Child protection agencies and courts gave mother the power to keep my daughter 'kidnapped' for 5,5 years now..! Haven't seen or heared from her since then! It is bizar how Dutch government is neglecting human rights to have meaningful relationships with your father and child(ren).
There is NO sanction towards parents who neglect the childs rights to have BOTH parents in their lifes. Hopefully, I am still waiting (2,5yr!) for appeal decision, my daugther and I will be reunited this summer. Then we will still have a long way to go to repair our familylife..
All those years that have gone by can't be repeated in any way.. These 5,5 years of not been able to experience her loving and caring father and family, have been stolen from my daughter, and from me, her father, and rest of the family.
Hopefully I will be able to make a difference in how we, as society, are dealing with these situations. This has to stop. |
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We met on the internet. I wired her $150.00 to move from Az to Ut. Her parents were getting ready to go to Baghdad Iraq for some business issues. She and I were together for 3 years and had two Sons. Her Mother kept coaching her to leave and move back to Az. I do not understand Arabic so when she was on the phone with her Mother I was in the dark and knew nothing. I warned her about what would happen is if She up and left me for whatever reason, that our Sons would act out due to my disappearence. Come April 28, 2002 the nightmare started with myself and two sons when she up and left State and followed a guy she
had met to Oregon to persue a relationship with him. She left absolutely no information, very secretive.
I found out a year later that the guy she moved with booted her and our boys out. I now suspect that they are living at or near her Mothers in Tucson Az. I also found out that my son who I bonded with the most cause he was the older one was in counceling...........just like I had warned her what would happen. How many 3 year olds do you know that needs counceling? I have no way of contacting her cause I found out that she was using her middle name since she left instead of her first name.
After finding out that in this state Utah their is no help for a Single Man in this state especially when it comes to Children. The bottom line after Months of trying to get help I discovered I had two choices. Either come up with $10.000 per child to fight custody, which is not what I am able to do or want to do. Second was to up and move to Az take up residency and apply for visiting rights. Yeah for my own kids. Then I hear that Az is a Womens State that I have less than 10% chance of being involved with them again. I do not understand this way of thinking. I have been trying hard to save money so I can relocate there and have enough to get established and find employment. My questions are: How can anyone be so
ignorant of childrens needs.? If She truely loved our Boys then she would do anything possible to bring joy and happiness to their hearts.
Ps Her only statement she said to me face to face on April 25, 2002 was and I quote: "You should have paid more attention to me than the kids" My comment back as She was walking away (But kids need more attention than adults)
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for the past 6yrs, my heart has been broken every time my son exchange my grandson to mom. And the rest of 2month when child is with mon.Due to her hate towards my son and at me.
She has tried to alienatemy grandson from his dad,she is an angry and violent person,the court
does not see this side of her,because she acts loving and as victim. My grandson,has always say to dad,"please,don't take me to mommys house, she is mean to me and she hits me hard,she puts me in my room without food".
He has been dignose with malnutrition and dehydrated, now by 3 doctors,been reported to cps only to close the case by not listenning to the child nor to the dad.It is very painful to see these things and the worst is that my son does not have the money to help my grandson. Even
one attorney stated "if you had the money you would not be going throu these".His fee was $4,000...So my son has been representing himself.Thanks,to God! the last hearing the judge allowed the child to stay temporary with us untill next eventuary hearing.
God help all the children who are in these predicament and thank you for having info. when I have spare money I will fund this organization. Oh now we seemore emotional health issues that my granson needs.
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My daughter was kidnapped by her father, two years and a half ago. The country where my daughter was kidnapped is Germany. I was living in the US of A and I simply sent my daughter, for a holiday, to her father. Since, I have not seen her.
In Germany, two trials in abstentia were made against me. The first trial was meant to nullify the judgment of divorce according to which I had the custody of my daughter. I was never invited to defend myself. Further, for a long time, Germany neglected to register my request for getting my daughter back, as per The Hague convention. It finally accepted to register my request, after I had gone through the ordeal of a 28 days hunger strike. I won that Hague trial; it was admitted that my ex' husband had kidnapped my daughter. However, my ex' husband appealed and used the clause 13BIS of the convention. The new tribunal accepted his stand: according to that infamous clause, as the child had been for a long time in its new environment, it would be better to let my daughter stay in Germany, with the kidnapping parent.
An employee of the Jugendamt (office for the protection of the youth) wrote a psychiatric report about me, without ever meeting me. His conclusions were horrible. Writing a psychiatric report about a person, without ever meeting that person, is legal in Germany. Further, the German law does not allow us to take an employee of the Jugendamt to court. After more than 2 years of endless fight, I decided to start a second hunger strike - to the end, this time. I come back to Belgium and spend my time in front of the Ministery for Foreign Affairs, in order to denounce the lack of respect of the international conventions, regarding child kidnapping. I receive the support of political « big brass » like the president of the Belgian Senate, who will, in front of the TV cameras, denounce the attitude of Germany.
I will, too, received the support of the EP vice-president. After 41 days, I stopped my second hunger strike. I stopped it because I was promised official help: a high ranking German official said he would help, and the Belgian ministeries (justice and foreign affairs) assured me that they had understood the importance of the problem with Germany. Further, they had promised that, for Xmas (we were in August), I would see my daughter. For that, however, I had to stop my strike: "a parent willing to die through a hunger strike cannot get his/her child back », was I told... On the 22nd of december, I received a fax announcing that I would not see my daughter for Xmas, as my request, sent in August, was sent so late that it did not show that I really wanted to see my daughter.
To date, I still have not seen her, and I learn now that my daugher is accusing me of terrible things. She is under parental alienation. My story is not a lone one. In Belgium only, several organizations are fighting against the increasing phenomenon of international parental kidnapping. To name but a few: "Sos Rapt Parentaux", headed by Sultana Kouhmane, or "Solidarirapt", headed by Nancy André. March 10, a meeting took place, in Bolzano - Italy, in order to stress the attitude of Germany, which is, in Europe, children-wise, a hooligan-state. The meeting was initiated by a lady, whose children had been legally kidnapped from her by the Jugendamt. She had to kidnap them back, and the authoress Karin Jaeckel wrote the story.
For the launch of the book, were several parents whose children disappeared in Germany. Last Monday I see my daughter in tribunal, she didn't want to speak with me, she say that I am a bad mother, but for 3 years she love me, and we have got a beautiful times, now is different, she is different, I love my daughter, but she didn't trust anymore my love for her. |
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Happy Birthday Sammy! We still miss you terribly and think of you many times everyday. We wonder how you are, what your doing with your life, and most of ALL......what do you look like now? It is still very hard on all of us, especially your Daddy of course, not being able to see you and know you. Still hoping that some day we can all have a good solid relationship. Just know that tomorrow we will be thinking of you even more and sending you out good thoughts and wishes for a happy day! Love you more than you'll ever know sweetie!
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My wife left me Five years ago taking our children with her and we divorced eighteeen months later. I subsequently met someone else and we tried to build our lives around my three children, two daughters who are sixteen and fourteen and a boy who is just seven. It has been difficult because they live over two hundred miles away but I spoke to them everyday on the 'phone and saw them initially twice a month then once a month when their mum said that their behavior was bad after seeing me. We also spent some holidays together.
Early last year my ex decided that I couldn't see my son as I had fallen behind with Child Support payments due to unemployment. After two months we resolved the situation and I saw my son again. We decided to get married last July at the time we were to have the children. We didn't tell their mum as we felt she would stop them coming up. When she changed the arrangements for the week we had to tell her and she wasn't happy. We did have the children for the weekend of the wedding but two days after she decided that I could not see my son anymore as he had been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, a claim she had made four years previously. Months of negotiating with my ex's solicitor proved fruitless and I had no option but to apply to the court for contact.
It took six months for the courts to prepare a report but eventually the Judge ordered contact with both my son and fourteen year old daughter who I had been advised to include on the contact application. The court were critical of my ex as she had made my daughter aware of the proceedings and shown her statements and reports and this had affected my daughters attitude to me. Part of the order was that my ex was not to give my daughter any further details, which unfortunately she failed to do and now my daughter has stopped all communication with me. My ex has broken the contact order with regards to my son and now I fear he will be influenced in a similar way to my daughter as he gets older.
I cannot adequately describe my emotions. Genuine pain at being cut off from my childrens lives, hurt at being rejected by my daughter who I know still loves me but does not realise the influence she is under, anger at a legal system that claims to consider the childrens best interests but seems over taken by inefficiency and inertia and guilt over a new wife that has been unable to finish her honeymoon due to the actions of her husbands ex.These words are the best I can manage. The future? I suppose it will be more hoping and waiting for my daughter to contact me, more hoping that my son won't forget me, more letters to the court in the hope that the contact order will be enforced and more hoping that my new wife will put up with me long enough for this sorry mess to be sorted out. |
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I will never stop loving either of you
no matter what you say or do.
I remember all the happy times we had together
Please don't let them fade away from your minds forever.
The times we rode the waves at the beach,
are all those memories now out of reach?
The camping trips when you were small
and all the walks while in the mall.
The days you spent in our inflatable pool,
with all your friends you did keep cool.
Sledding down at Endicott park,
wearing your glow sticks in the dark.
Rollerblading day and night,
the times we tried to fly a kite.
The two mile hike up to lonesome lake
and all the goodies we loved to bake.
Skiing up at Bradford mountain,
floating under the mushroom fountain.
The Charlie Brown play at school,
Miss Chiquita Banana you sure did rule.
Planting gardens in the spring,
that silly song that began with ding.
The cards you made, the pictures you drew,
I proudly displayed for everyone to view.
These things and more I hold close in my heart
for they help me get through all the days we're apart.
Love Mom |
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