Parental Alienation
Awareness Organization

I was in a situation where my ex wife took off with my child about christmas 1992,I was at work and she had destroyed all of the things, while i was at work. I came home that evening and found she was gone. After that she took off with my child back to her home state.And i tryed contacting them and finally did.So i took a trip out there and got my child from her,then she came back and took off with my child again.

Then I had not seen my child since she was 5 yrs old.Then when my ex sisterinlaw got guardinship of them i never saw my daughter up until 3yrs ago saying she was back in state custody.I was so devastated of not knowing where my child was or if she was being taken care of. Until i saw her again 3 yrs ago.Now i can only talk to her on the phone she is still in state custody,and we speak every week.So if it was not for this i would not have contact with my daughter.

LONG STORY, short version: My x-wife has been diagnosed with a paranoid personality disorder, and has systematically alienated our 2 children from me, and my family, over the past several years. In the eyes of our children i am to blame for all that has happened and i have 'ruined their lives' ! My x has no family remaining(parents deceased, an only child), and is basically (ab)using the children to meet her own emotional needs. My x filed a false PFA against me to have me taken out our home, and then subsequently divorced me. (a blessing in disguise!) BUT, by the grace of GOD, and perseverance and much prayer, our 15yo son is now in my full custody with NO contact with his 'mother', while a custody evaluation is to be conducted, per my request/court order. However my 18yo daughter, remains sadly, cruelly and unjustly alienated and brainwashed by her controlling manipulative intimidating mother,(and may even have an eating disorder), as a result of the FOG(fear, oppression, guilt) she has been living under, for over 5 long years now.

I do not know how to convince/'rescue' our daughter (and son, for that matter) They need to have the scales removed from their eyes and hearts, to be able to see the truth of this twisted life and half-truths/lies they have been told for TOO long... I can only keep #1 praying, #2 loving them, and #3 showing them love and patience... They are living in oppressive slavery, a 'village', as depicted by the movie "The Village", by M Night 'Shamylan'. They are living under an unfounded "FEAR" --- "False Evidence Appearing Real" !!! GOD will free them in HIS timing, from this wickedness... Time for healing is needed, and GOD is the HOPE against all HOPE ! Thank you for your time and for reading my(our) story...

My Story : To whom it may concern: On January, 29th, 2003,A School-Principal, a CPS-worker, and a Washington County Sheriff's Deputy [Washington County, Utah] entered into a U.S. Code TITLE 18, Sec. 241 (conpiracy against rights) against myself and my family. The resulting police incursion alienated me and my wife (The Natural Parents) of our 8 1/2 year old son for 60 days. We were arrested on a presumption of "Child Abuse" and when we resisted an unlawful arrest, they (The attacking sheriff's) charged me and my wife with Felony Charges, and retained us for an ungodly amount of Bail. On December 4th, 2003, A Fifth-District Juvenile Court Judge, terminated our Parental Rights, on no more than the opinions of the so-called "experts." These people, including public pretenders intentionally fabricated and acted upon a consciencely decided genocide of myself and family. My wife and I had never been accused of abuse or neglect until we sent our son to Public School. The last Day we (The natural parents) were permitted to see our son was December 17th, 2003, and we have heard through the grape vine that he has now been shuffled to his fourth foster home. Is there anybody who can challenge these malevolent people?

My Story : I am a stay at home day and have been the primary caregiver for my two children and stepchild for over four years. As of late my partner and I were not seeing eye to eye aobut finances and turned into me being a mentally and physicaly abusive spouse and father. We went to see a phcycologist to what i thought was patch up out relationship and work on our problems. Turns out she wanted me to be assesed for anger management issues. First thing she said was that we have been separated for over 2 months and were just living together. Did not see that coming or feel that way as we were still sharing the same bed. This was all followed by how she did not feel safe around me and that she feared for the kids. I am completely beside myself at this point. I knew the possibillity of us breaking up was there and no very real at this point. But she was making me out to be a monster. She has been telling people that i kick my dog and that I push and smack my step-daughter around. She even went as far as saying that she thought she heard me shaking the baby, my one year old son the only other male in the house. I couldnt believe all of the stuff coming out of her mouth. As soon as I left the meeting it became all to clear what had happened. From her packing extra clothes for the kids as she set up her mom to take the kids while we were at this meeting. The packing of abnormally extra diapers for the morning. Turns out this has been planned out for some time. I spoke to my daughter last night and she told me that mommy her brother and her were moving into there grandparents house. I have been left broken hearted and with out my children that i have cared for since there very first breath. From the time I witnessed them come into this world I was there for them. There mother would work right up until the very end of the pregnancy and then a couple of months after be right back to work. I am managing a modest home based business that allows me to stay home with the kids. I bottle fed both of them as soon as there mom was ready to work and pump the breast milk. I take the kids to the park just about everyday depending on weather. I take the youngest two swimming three times a week while the oldest is in school. I make sure they have healthy meals three times a day plus snacks. I do wverything in my abilities to keep them safe from harm. I have been teaching my three year old daughter, my little angel, numbers and the alphabet with flash cards and rewards. Everyone that i have ever run into that sees me with my kids and knows that I am a stay at home dad says how wonderful it is for what I am doing and what a good job i have done as the kids are so well behaved. I feel like i just had my heart ripped out and stolen from.

My Story : My partner has been a victim of PAS ever since he split up with his wife in 2001. His ex-wife has routinely told his children that he doesn't love them anymore, that he abandones them and that he doesn't support them financially - none of which are true. She has also talked to the children about the divorce and involved them in things that they should never have been party to at their tender age. As a result of her mind games my eldest step-son is severly damaged and has developed an eating disorder, the eldest daughter has severe behavioural problems and the youngest lacks self-esteem and is very introverted. It's so sad as my poor partner has had to go through the courts to even be able to see his children and she still doesn't stick to the court order. The only real losers in this situation are her children who will carry this baggage throughout their lives. In England there is no acknowledgement of PAS in the courts and they very often favour the parent with care over the parent applying for contact. Hopefully PAS will become more publicised over here and Judges in the Family Courts will begin to realise it actually exists.

My Story : Puede que mi hijo fuera víctima de atentados contra la libertad sexual, tenía por entonces 5 años. Como dicta la ley, y tras un largo recorrido por distintos profesionales -médicos, abogados, conserjerias, los cuales miraban hacia otro lado por ser incorrectamente politico- decidí ponerlo en conocimiento del juzgado nº4 de Linares. La titular del mismo, ahora ascendida a magistrada lo manipuló todo, iniciando los tramites oportunos, pero acusandome a mi. El resultado fue que el padre biológico fue acusado de tal extremo, hecho provocado al obligar la madre a declarar al menor en contra de su padre, como viene ocurriendo desde hace cinco años.Al final se descubrio mi inocencia. Me han robado los ilustres abogados, aprovechandose de un padre en situación limite para robar sus ahorros y los de su anciana madre. Han sido varios intentos de suicidio que ya llevo, con la mala suerte de no lograr mi objetivo, tan solo recibí instrucciones para no fracasar en la siguiente. No lo haré. Gracias a que no camino 10 metros en esta cloaca de niniciudad sin ser insultado ni vejado no dejo de pensar en lo mismo, solo me frena el cómo se sntirá mi hijo tras mi fallecimiento y de si no se culpará el mismo al haber sido obligado tantas veces a declarar contra su padre, al que quiere, en los juzgados. No se cuanto tiempo podre aguantar. Me han robado a mi familia, mi economía, mi honor, y por si quedara poco tambien en el trabajo, pues la familia de la ex se ha encargado de publicitar los autos de alejamiento de mi hijo, obsoletos, por toda la ciudad, casa por casa. En definitiva, creo me han matado ya, a mi hijo y a mi. Enhorabuena. No soy el unico, conozco muchos casos como el mio. Es la metodologia que se emplea en la Administracion de justicia. Si tubiera que contar todo lo que nos han hecho necesitaría muchos dias. Gracias a los comites de linchamiento por nuestro asesinato.

My son has been divorced from his wife of 7 years. Their relationship goes back much further. They had a daughter together just out of high school, broke up for 2 years and then reunited, married and had 2 sons. Last year my son filed for divorce. Even while they were married she and her family played mind games with the children. After they seperated, she would tell them what a loser their Dad was and tell them that they did not have to go with him for visitation if they did not want to.

She continues to maline both my son and his entire family to the children. I am accused of being a bad grandmother because I don't spend enough money on them. She lies about her work schedule depriving him of court ordered visitation and then tells the kids that he was out drinking and did not want to see them. She calls him an alcoholic to his children and maligns any of the people that he associates with. She most recently called DCFS and accused him of physically abusing the children. Now we have that to deal with on top of all of her other actions.

I am a 46 year old Man who waited until the age of 38 to get married and at 39 God blessed us with a prescious baby girl and a very comfortable living as I winded down to the final 5 years of my "Sea-Going Engineering Carreer" Take my pension BUY -OUT and enjoy a family life without 4 months sea-duty and 4 months home routine.

My wife appeared to be the dream wife-mother partner untill she was natauralized and I paid her mother's way into the USA to meet her Granddaughter,then 3 . Upon her arrival started the plunge of our life,as arguments went louder and louder I was a stranger in my own home and often looked foreward to going back on ship to get away from them.I gained a wonderfull relationship with my 3 year old daughter and this was not acceptable to my wife she rejected this and her plans were initiated by causing a violent scene in front of our child and attempted to put my eyes out she attacked me as I was blinded fri=om her fingers into my eye sockets and face and eyes bleeding all over the house as our daughter I heard crying DADDY and she ranout the door with the child and called 911 from a neighbors home the police arrested her and took her to JAIL and I was temporarily blinded for 2 days as my child nursed my wounds and cared for me.

When I got my wife out of jail I told her her Mother was out of our home and again a brutally psychotic creature arrupted in her and this time she out of the blue lurched back and cried ouch! and grabed our child and left.2 weeks later without hearing from her I was concerned and mad as hell and was in line to file my divorce pappers when I was served a Temporary Protective Order........ She had LIED to the womans shelter people and I was a bad guy now and i was falsly acused of attacking her and the shelter personel moved her from the shelter to a subsidized home and I was ordered to stay away.

I did and then as my heart broke for my little girl I was arrested for giving my daughter a birthday gift with a card I wrote on and this was a violation of the Order my CRUEL WIFE and HER CROOK attorney fought hell bent to get me in jail for and the female judge ," AS SPITEFULL AS MY WIFE" put me in jail. I lost my personel security clearance and was deemed UN-HIREABLE by the contractors to my UNION and was debriefed and dismissed. 27 years of pension gone and now with a police record for contempt of court guess what the wifes attorney wants? MONEY!!!! Ha Ha Yeah the imbesiles are attempting to ex-propriate me from my lifes savings as they commit hard core PAS with the COURT PROMOTING and inforcing it.

My little girl is six now and we sold our home and she has moved three or four times in first grade and the momma has brainwashed her and I only get phone calls occasionally to hear my daughter say she HATES ME!!! What kind of mother and ambulance chasing thief attorney could bare to look in the mirror as they do this to this poor child!!!!!!!!!!

I fought for this country and I felt strong that we had a good system but I am hanging by a thread as to the corrupt and criminal displacing of children here in southern nevada and the judicial misconduct! I get a lot of good from your association and I could not bare it without your support groups. Sincerely praying to GOD for a change in family court venue.

I was present with the birth of my daughter, june 1995. I have seen her coming in this world. I was proud and enjoyed every day and every moment we shared regularly and bounded during the first 5,5 years of her life. She loved being with me and visiting her grandparents and other familymemebers and friends with me. Doing all the normal things, all those years. I love her.

Then, early 2001, the mother decided to hold her solely for herself, by falsely accusing me of sexual abuse.. My breath was taken away and my heart seemed to stop. This has been investigated and not been found to have any ground. This took 6 months.. After that you think the contact will be restored, but not so. The mother refused everything and a horrible period of trial and 'investigating' took place, the most time wasted by waiting on procedures.. on the court..

Child protection agencies and courts gave mother the power to keep my daughter 'kidnapped' for 5,5 years now..! Haven't seen or heared from her since then! It is bizar how Dutch government is neglecting human rights to have meaningful relationships with your father and child(ren).
There is NO sanction towards parents who neglect the childs rights to have BOTH parents in their lifes. Hopefully, I am still waiting (2,5yr!) for appeal decision, my daugther and I will be reunited this summer. Then we will still have a long way to go to repair our familylife..

 

All those years that have gone by can't be repeated in any way.. These 5,5 years of not been able to experience her loving and caring father and family, have been stolen from my daughter, and from me, her father, and rest of the family.

 

Hopefully I will be able to make a difference in how we, as society, are dealing with these situations. This has to stop.

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We met on the internet. I wired her $150.00 to move from Az to Ut. Her parents were getting ready to go to Baghdad Iraq for some business issues. She and I were together for 3 years and had two Sons. Her Mother kept coaching her to leave and move back to Az. I do not understand Arabic so when she was on the phone with her Mother I was in the dark and knew nothing. I warned her about what would happen is if She up and left me for whatever reason, that our Sons would act out due to my disappearence. Come April 28, 2002 the nightmare started with myself and two sons when she up and left State and followed a guy she
had met to Oregon to persue a relationship with him. She left absolutely no information, very secretive.

I found out a year later that the guy she moved with booted her and our boys out. I now suspect that they are living at or near her Mothers in Tucson Az. I also found out that my son who I bonded with the most cause he was the older one was in counceling...........just like I had warned her what would happen. How many 3 year olds do you know that needs counceling? I have no way of contacting her cause I found out that she was using her middle name since she left instead of her first name.

After finding out that in this state Utah their is no help for a Single Man in this state especially when it comes to Children. The bottom line after Months of trying to get help I discovered I had two choices. Either come up with $10.000 per child to fight custody, which is not what I am able to do or want to do. Second was to up and move to Az take up residency and apply for visiting rights. Yeah for my own kids. Then I hear that Az is a Womens State that I have less than 10% chance of being involved with them again. I do not understand this way of thinking. I have been trying hard to save money so I can relocate there and have enough to get established and find employment. My questions are: How can anyone be so
ignorant of childrens needs.? If She truely loved our Boys then she would do anything possible to bring joy and happiness to their hearts.

Ps Her only statement she said to me face to face on April 25, 2002 was and I quote: "You should have paid more attention to me than the kids" My comment back as She was walking away (But  kids need more attention than adults)

for the past 6yrs, my heart has been broken every time my son exchange my grandson to mom. And the rest of 2month when child is with mon.Due to her hate towards my son and at me.

She has tried to alienatemy grandson from his dad,she is an angry and violent person,the court
does not see this side of her,because she acts loving and as victim. My grandson,has always say to dad,"please,don't take me to mommys house, she is mean to me and she hits me hard,she puts me in my room without food".

He has been dignose with malnutrition and dehydrated, now by 3 doctors,been reported to cps only to close the case by not listenning to the child nor to the dad.It is very painful to see these things and the worst is that my son does not have the money to help my grandson. Even
one attorney stated "if you had the money you would not be going throu these".His fee was $4,000...So my son has been representing himself.Thanks,to God! the last hearing the judge allowed the child to stay temporary with us untill next eventuary hearing.

God help all the children who are in these predicament and thank you for having info. when I have spare money I will fund this organization. Oh now we seemore emotional health issues that my granson needs.

My daughter was kidnapped by her father, two years and a half ago. The country where my daughter was kidnapped is Germany. I was living in the US of A and I simply sent my daughter, for a holiday, to her father. Since, I have not seen her.

In Germany, two trials in abstentia were made against me. The first trial was meant to nullify the judgment of divorce according to which I had the custody of my daughter. I was never invited to defend myself. Further, for a long time, Germany neglected to register my request for getting my daughter back, as per The Hague convention. It finally accepted to register my request, after I had gone through the ordeal of a 28 days hunger strike. I won that Hague trial; it was admitted that my ex' husband had kidnapped my daughter. However, my ex' husband appealed and used the clause 13BIS of the convention. The new tribunal accepted his stand: according to that infamous clause, as the child had been for a long time in its new environment, it would be better to let my daughter stay in Germany, with the kidnapping parent.

An employee of the Jugendamt (office for the protection of the youth) wrote a psychiatric report about me, without ever meeting me. His conclusions were horrible. Writing a psychiatric report about a person, without ever meeting that person, is legal in Germany. Further, the German law does not allow us to take an employee of the Jugendamt to court. After more than 2 years of endless fight, I decided to start a second hunger strike - to the end, this time. I come back to Belgium and spend my time in front of the Ministery for Foreign Affairs, in order to denounce the lack of respect of the international conventions, regarding child kidnapping. I receive the support of political « big brass » like the president of the Belgian Senate, who will, in front of the TV cameras, denounce the attitude of Germany.

I will, too, received the support of the EP vice-president. After 41 days, I stopped my second hunger strike. I stopped it because I was promised official help: a high ranking German official said he would help, and the Belgian ministeries (justice and foreign affairs) assured me that they had understood the importance of the problem with Germany. Further, they had promised that, for Xmas (we were in August), I would see my daughter. For that, however, I had to stop my strike: "a parent willing to die through a hunger strike cannot get his/her child back », was I told... On the 22nd of december, I received a fax announcing that I would not see my daughter for Xmas, as my request, sent in August, was sent so late that it did not show that I really wanted to see my daughter.

To date, I still have not seen her, and I learn now that my daugher is accusing me of terrible things. She is under parental alienation. My story is not a lone one. In Belgium only, several organizations are fighting against the increasing phenomenon of international parental kidnapping. To name but a few: "Sos Rapt Parentaux", headed by Sultana Kouhmane, or "Solidarirapt", headed by Nancy André. March 10, a meeting took place, in Bolzano - Italy, in order to stress the attitude of Germany, which is, in Europe, children-wise, a hooligan-state. The meeting was initiated by a lady, whose children had been legally kidnapped from her by the Jugendamt. She had to kidnap them back, and the authoress Karin Jaeckel wrote the story.

For the launch of the book, were several parents whose children disappeared in Germany. Last Monday I see my daughter in tribunal, she didn't want to speak with me, she say that I am a bad mother, but for 3 years she love me, and we have got a beautiful times, now is different, she is different, I love my daughter, but she didn't trust anymore my love for her.

Happy Birthday Sammy! We still miss you terribly and think of you many times everyday. We wonder how you are, what your doing with your life, and most of ALL......what do you look like now? It is still very hard on all of us, especially your Daddy of course, not being able to see you and know you. Still hoping that some day we can all have a good solid relationship. Just know that tomorrow we will be thinking of you even more and sending you out good thoughts and wishes for a happy day! Love you more than you'll ever know sweetie!

My wife left me Five years ago taking our children with her and we divorced eighteeen months later. I subsequently met someone else and we tried to build our lives around my three children, two daughters who are sixteen and fourteen and a boy who is just seven. It has been difficult because they live over two hundred miles away but I spoke to them everyday on the 'phone and saw them initially twice a month then once a month when their mum said that their behavior was bad after seeing me. We also spent some holidays together.

Early last year my ex decided that I couldn't see my son as I had fallen behind with Child Support payments due to unemployment. After two months we resolved the situation and I saw my son again. We decided to get married last July at the time we were to have the children. We didn't tell their mum as we felt she would stop them coming up. When she changed the arrangements for the week we had to tell her and she wasn't happy. We did have the children for the weekend of the wedding but two days after she decided that I could not see my son anymore as he had been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, a claim she had made four years previously. Months of negotiating with my ex's solicitor proved fruitless and I had no option but to apply to the court for contact.

It took six months for the courts to prepare a report but eventually the Judge ordered contact with both my son and fourteen year old daughter who I had been advised to include on the contact application. The court were critical of my ex as she had made my daughter aware of the proceedings and shown her statements and reports and this had affected my daughters attitude to me. Part of the order was that my ex was not to give my daughter any further details, which unfortunately she failed to do and now my daughter has stopped all communication with me. My ex has broken the contact order with regards to my son and now I fear he will be influenced in a similar way to my daughter as he gets older.

I cannot adequately describe my emotions. Genuine pain at being cut off from my childrens lives, hurt at being rejected by my daughter who I know still loves me but does not realise the influence she is under, anger at a legal system that claims to consider the childrens best interests but seems over taken by inefficiency and inertia and guilt over a new wife that has been unable to finish her honeymoon due to the actions of her husbands ex.These words are the best I can manage. The future? I suppose it will be more hoping and waiting for my daughter to contact me, more hoping that my son won't forget me, more letters to the court in the hope that the contact order will be enforced and more hoping that my new wife will put up with me long enough for this sorry mess to be sorted out.

I will never stop loving either of you
no matter what you say or do.

I remember all the happy times we had together
Please don't let them fade away from your minds forever.

The times we rode the waves at the beach,
are all those memories now out of reach?

The camping trips when you were small
and all the walks while in the mall.

The days you spent in our inflatable pool,
with all your friends you did keep cool.

Sledding down at Endicott park,
wearing your glow sticks in the dark.

Rollerblading day and night,
the times we tried to fly a kite.

The two mile hike up to lonesome lake
and all the goodies we loved to bake.

Skiing up at Bradford mountain,
floating under the mushroom fountain.

The Charlie Brown play at school,
Miss Chiquita Banana you sure did rule.

Planting gardens in the spring,
that silly song that began with ding.

The cards you made, the pictures you drew,
I proudly displayed for everyone to view.

These things and more I hold close in my heart
for they help me get through all the days we're apart.

Love Mom

I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR 5 YEARS NOW, MY TWO SONS LIVE WITH MY EX, BOTH AGED 11 AND 8. WE DIVORCED ON STUPID GROUNDS SUBMITTED BY MY EX, THERE WAS NO ADULTARY(NOT ON MY PART ANYWAY), I WASN'T A DRINKER OR WIFE/CHILD HITTER, THE REASONS WERE NOT WORTH A DIVORCE. I TRIED TO RECONSILE WITH HER, MAINLY FOR THE BOYS BUT TO NO AVAIL.

I STILL GOT ON WITH HER FAMILY, THEY SPOKE AND ASKED HOW I WAS, BUT SOME MONTHS LATER ALL THAT STOPPED. I WAS IGNORED, NOT ALLOWED TO GO TO THE DOOR OF THE HOUSE OF HER FAMILY. WHILE THIS HAPPENED MY EX WAS TELLING MY FAMILY THAT WHATEVER HAD GONE OFF BETWEEN US WAS OUR MATTER AND STILL WANTED TO BE FRIENDS, SOMETHING HER FAMILY DONT SEEM TO CONTINUE WITH. THEN IT WAS PARENTS OF MY SONS FRIENDS WHO IGNORED ME, WHEN I PICKED THEM UP FROM SCHOOL, THE PARENTS TURNED THERE BACKS ON ME OR LOOKED AT ME AS IF I WAS SOMETHING THEY HAD STOOD IN. MY YOUNGEST PLAYS IN A SUNDAY FOOTBALL TEAM AND I GO MAINLY TO WATCH HIM, AGAIN PEOPLE WHO DONT KNOW ME PERSONALY IGNORED ME OR WHEN I SPOKE TO THEM REPLIED IN A MANNER THAT THEY WISH THEY WASNT THERE. MANY SUNDAY MORNINGS I HAVE STOOD ALONE AT THE BACK OF GOAL WHILE MY EX STANDS WITH OTHER PARENTS CHATTING AND LAUGHING.

I HAVE FOUND OUT THAT A PRESENTATION NIGHT HAS BEEN BOOKED FOR THE TEAM, BUT I HAVE HAD NO INVITE, BY MY EX OR FOOTBALL TEAM ORGANISERS. FRIENDS I HAVE KNOW FOR YEARS HAVE NOW DISAPPERED, ONE EVEN ASKED ON THE PHONE WHO I WAS. THERE ARE TIMES I FEEL SO ALONE AND NOT WANTED THAT IF I WENT MISSING NO ONE WOULD CARE, BUT I CARRY ON FOR THE BOYS THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO DO. I HAVE LEARNT THAT MY EX HAS BEEN SPREADING LIES ABOUT ME, THAT I WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A 19 YEAR WHILE STILL MARRIED AND TRYING IT ON WITH THE BABY SITTER, BOTH UNTRUE BUT ONLY HER SIDE IS HEARD. I HAVE A SAYING NOW WHICH I USE TO PEOPLE WHO IGNORE ME AND IT IS, "PEOPLE SHOULD LEARN AND NOT JUDGE". DIVORCED LIFES FOR FATHERS IS NOT ALL HAPINESS AND FREEDOM, ITS ALSO SOLITUDE AND LONELINESS.

My Story : HI.I have just seen your website. Yes, I have a story to tell. You asked for details about the heartache, the pain, the hurt. That is so great. At last, the pain that is being endured is being recognized. I will send you details. But, if you want to look at a website, a poetry one, where one of the poets there, hearing about what had happened, responded - you will see a poem about me, and what I an alienated parent suffering terribly, did on Christmas Day, because the she - the mother - wouldn't allow me ANY CONTACT with my children. There is a terrible more to this. Perhaps you would like a web reference. Have a look at a poem written about me. I am the man the poem is about, and the children are mine. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- http://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?id=84166

My Story : My ex ran off with another man in 1995 and has used the children as weapons against me since then. I now have been banned from seeing my children and it is worse than death to lose your children and not have any power to get them back. The system and courts in BC have ruined my life and backed my ex and alienation perpetrators to no end.

My Story : I am writing on behalf of my fiance. He has been through many attempts to be aliented by his ex-wife. During their divorce and custody battle, he was able to obtain many emails between his soon to be ex-wife and a man she met off the internet and was engaged to. In these emails they (ex-wife and fiance) made detailed plans on how they were going to eliminate my fiance from his daughters life, how they were going to set him up to be accused of sexual abuse so he could never see him again and how they were grooming the child to believe step-dad was her father. The courts entered the documents (emails)and ordered mother to take a mental evaluation, to which she failed and ordered into counseling, they also put a restraining order on mother's fiance to never have ANY contact with daughter because of things mother was going to allow him to do to daughter (body massages to become closer to god, tickle time and times where he said mother would lock her self in her room to pray for 2 hours each day, while he took care of daughter and gave massages) Even after all of this she was able to retain custody. After the divorce and currently she continues to with hold visits, will not daughter talk to dad on phone, tells child that dad is going to send her to jail and she will never see her mommy again, constantly telling child that dad is Satan and ungodly, that our house is unglodly. It is never ending the extremes that this woman goes to in trying to undermine his relationship with his daughter. Withholds school and medical infomation that is vital to her health and then tries to turn dad in for not giving medicine, even though he was never informed or given the medicine. I really wish the courts would wake up and she the harm and suffering to these children at the hands of unhealthy parents. I wish your oganization the best and if I would love to start a chapter in my area, as our court system in this area is very vaginized and always favors towards the mother, no matter the evidence or circumstances, action is currently in place to have all past cases reivewed by another judge because of it

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My Story : Greetings! and thank you for having a site like this. Up until this moment I have felt so alone with my case. FOC has told me to just get a counselor to help me with parental alienation. Perhaps my case will seem less exciting than others, but the truth is "It Hurts!" My ex re-married, and I do see my 2 boys 5 and 9 every other weekend for a 24 hr. period. The problem is that she has convinced the boys that the new husband is dad... not me. That there last name is like the mothers, not mine. They are quite open with calling him dad when they are here, and call me by my 1st name or simply "hey". Now I am a grown man, capable of handling the emotional hurt of these actions, by the way they are identical to the same as her 1st childs dad... repitious behavior. My real concern is for the boys. that this is a type of child abuse that will have long lasting identity problems in the future. Emotional trauma so to speak... FOC is no help. Any and all suggestions are welcome, please write back if possible. I need to put this "mother" in her place, and re-gain my rightful place as "Dad". Sincerely, A Dad with a passion for his children. God Bless.

My Story: I am currently involved in a custody case in the Michigan courts. My ex-husband is actively involved with alienating my children. The family appointments with the court appointed psychologist are now complete and I've already pestered him with messages since the last appointment, but now I'm more aware of PAS and I'd like to let him know that I believe my children exhibit all the signs of PAS. He knows of many of the details--should I trust that he knows what PAS is? Does anyone have advice on the best way to approach the expert on this matter? My children believe that my ex's money troubles are my fault. I just spent the weekend with the children, my son is 6 and daughter is 5. My son is actively involved with soccer with his father's inluence. My daughter has shown no interest in soccer, despite her father's insistence. When she asks to enroll in classes where HER interest lies (music or art) her father tells her he doesn't have money because of the divorce, and to ask me for the money. My son has gotten gifts of money from my side of the family, to pick out something for himself, and he says he wants to give it to his Dad because he has no money. The are frequently told to ask their mom for things they want. My children are afraid to tell me about their lives at their Dad's house. My daughter gave me a batch of pictures she created, and she was describing each to me. When she came to a page with two girls, she got very upset that it wasn't included and refused to talk about it. When I asked if it was her father's girlfriend, she said she wasn't allowed to talk about her with me. My daughter can no longer sleep independently--she sleeps in her Dad's bed at the age of 5 almost every night. When I try to talk to her about it, she says she's not supposed to talk about it. When she takes a shower, she always wants me to shower with her--she's afraid to shower alone. My son has moments when he is focused on a specific bad memory, that he says his father blames on me. When I try to soothe my son, he only says, "Dad says it is all YOUR fault" and continues to cry and refuses to listen to me. My children know details about the divorce and repeatedly ask me about them. My daughter cries and says "Why are you so mean to my Dad?" or "Why are you always fighting with my Dad?" They hear their Dad discussing the case and disparaging me with other people. I hope and pray that the courts will see what he is doing to our children and rule accordingly.

the last day i seen my grandson he said mammaw i'll love you for every and every no matter what happen's , I said i will you too. He and his little brother were adopted last sept 30th  His adopted family just inform his mother he had a nervius break down the reason she was told about this she called to wish him a happy birthday and was told she could'nt talk to him.

 

The day they took his 11 year old sister away she was put in a shelter out of school for 6 months cps had no where else to put her her next home was in lock down with older teenagers, after a year there she has been in 36 foster care homes ran away 3 times only for police to pick her up and take her back the last time she ran away they put her in a home where she call me and said the foster dad pops beer cans open as he drives them to walmart. I gave her a ipod so it would go off at 8 o clock to remind her so we would be saying our hail mary's together the 18 teen year old daughter of the foster family took it,  the reason my granddaughter knew this she would hear it go off in the girls room at 8 'o' clock every night.

 

On thankgiving she sat in the yard all day while the foster family and  friends had dinner, after dinner she got a can of chicken noodle soup and was made to clean up the kithen. She said the water smells like dirty rotten eggs i've not seen her in over a year, and  i have begged cps to let my grandkids live with me but they wont even talk to me.

 

The last time i talk to her she said mammaw i set in the yard watching for your gray thunderbird to come up the road and take me home. My grandkids are the world to me, the love they have in their little hearts for me a foster family can never replace, i hope they dont grow up to hate but i fear they will. This much i do know, they were loved and they knew love. I hope and pray that every state will have a ombudsman to investgate cps the family law judges and not take kids away from their home and loved ones on hear say's

I have witnessed parental alienation first hand by the mother of my husbands son. My husband) and his ex-wife were not married when their son was born, and as they were so young (19 and 22) their relationship broke down when their son was just a baby.

The boy is now 8 years old and for the whole of his life he has suffered this child abuse by his mother. Whenever my husband's ex-wife feels like it she stops contact between father and son. His son is extremely confused and gets upset by what is going on. I have heard my husband's ex-wife's fiance (who is an incredibly angry and violent man) refer to the child as "a f*cking c*nt" on many occasions in front of him, and one can only hope that these actions don't have any lasting damaging effect on my husband's son.

I am in Australia and am a victim of parental alienation. I left my husband due to domestic violence and I have a 12 year old daugher and 19 year old son still with my husband. It has been almost 8 months and I have had no contact with my daughter because she does not want any contact with me and my son repeatedly abuses me on the phone or text messages and says the same unless I go back.

I know that they have been influenced by their father as he has badmouthed me and responsible for turning them against me. He has done everything in his power to isolate my daughter from me as I was isolated from my family and friends for many years, including suicide threats and disappearing after the property is sold. I really fear for my children. I do have a 17 year old daugher with me because of the abuse she was experiencing also I discovered Parental Alienation approximately 2 months ago and have spend endless hours educating myself on this. I am having difficulty convincing attorneys, child protective services and schools as to the severity of this and the damage it is causing my daughter.

I have tried endlessly with letters, phone, text messages to contact my daughter but have not been successful. It will go to court soon and I fear that because she wants to stay with her father and have no contact with me that the courts will grant her wishes but I know deep down this is not what she really wants. No body is taking this serious and I am just devastated and don't know where to turn. I seem to come across as an overwrought mother and just hit a brick wall. Nobody is listening and it just breaks my heart. I will do anything to save my kids. Regards, Desperate mom.

I would happy to share my case to your parental alienation group, as I believe this new age sad & evil indictment for so many children should be exposed for the terrible tragedy it is.

 

I have been fighting the Courts since 2001, as I was the victim of false allegations of sexual abuse and domestic violence. As a result I get access to children is about 9 hours a year even though I have irrefutable evidence that I was a gentle & loving Dad who had strong and healthy bonds with both my daughters who were 8 & 6 before this nightmare started.

 

The Court is not interested in the truth and has never given the chance to put my side of the story, which will clearly show I am a victim of a huge miscarriage of justice. I have tried to get the Court to address the blatant parental alienation of my children however two court appointed psychologists will not address the issue as the New Zealand psychology board does not recognise the condition. I can prove the Court has acted with malice, negligence and maliciousness however with a corrupt judicial system I have no show of obtaining natural justice. I suppose the 14 criminal convictions and 6 permanent protection orders will remain around my neck until the hateful system finally slams in the final nail.

 

My kids can’t understand it as they tell me they love me heaps and just want to see much more of me. However when they go to see the lawyers which involves a two hour trip in the car they are programmed and poisoned by their mother, aunt, and maternal grand mother to say that they do not want to see Dad. These are the same people who orchestrated the lies of sexual abuse and domestic violence and I am powerless to do anything about it. I have had to face criminal charges due to false allegations every year since this major depressive episode started and appear again at the end of the month.

 

My health is suffering and doctors tell me that a stroke is inevitable even though I am on huge doses of heart medication & warfarin for a man who celebrates his 46 th birthday in May.

The justice system must listen to the damage of PAS and I will do anything that I can to get this condition recognised by the sick system. I am proud to be part a effort to try and expose this evil. i am in the family court tommorrow .

 

I will distribute flyers etc. in the Courthouse - politicans - lawyers - etc.... as they must acknowledge PAS and it harmful consequences for children and alienated non -custodial parents .

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