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for the past 6yrs, my heart has been broken every time my son exchange my grandson to mom. And the rest of 2month when child is with mon.Due to her hate towards my son and at me.
She has tried to alienatemy grandson from his dad,she is an angry and violent person,the court
does not see this side of her,because she acts loving and as victim. My grandson,has always say to dad,"please,don't take me to mommys house, she is mean to me and she hits me hard,she puts me in my room without food".
He has been dignose with malnutrition and dehydrated, now by 3 doctors,been reported to cps only to close the case by not listenning to the child nor to the dad.It is very painful to see these things and the worst is that my son does not have the money to help my grandson. Even
one attorney stated "if you had the money you would not be going throu these".His fee was $4,000...So my son has been representing himself.Thanks,to God! the last hearing the judge allowed the child to stay temporary with us untill next eventuary hearing.
God help all the children who are in these predicament and thank you for having info. when I have spare money I will fund this organization. Oh now we seemore emotional health issues that my granson needs.
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My daughter was kidnapped by her father, two years and a half ago. The country where my daughter was kidnapped is Germany. I was living in the US of A and I simply sent my daughter, for a holiday, to her father. Since, I have not seen her.
In Germany, two trials in abstentia were made against me. The first trial was meant to nullify the judgment of divorce according to which I had the custody of my daughter. I was never invited to defend myself. Further, for a long time, Germany neglected to register my request for getting my daughter back, as per The Hague convention. It finally accepted to register my request, after I had gone through the ordeal of a 28 days hunger strike. I won that Hague trial; it was admitted that my ex' husband had kidnapped my daughter. However, my ex' husband appealed and used the clause 13BIS of the convention. The new tribunal accepted his stand: according to that infamous clause, as the child had been for a long time in its new environment, it would be better to let my daughter stay in Germany, with the kidnapping parent.
An employee of the Jugendamt (office for the protection of the youth) wrote a psychiatric report about me, without ever meeting me. His conclusions were horrible. Writing a psychiatric report about a person, without ever meeting that person, is legal in Germany. Further, the German law does not allow us to take an employee of the Jugendamt to court. After more than 2 years of endless fight, I decided to start a second hunger strike - to the end, this time. I come back to Belgium and spend my time in front of the Ministery for Foreign Affairs, in order to denounce the lack of respect of the international conventions, regarding child kidnapping. I receive the support of political « big brass » like the president of the Belgian Senate, who will, in front of the TV cameras, denounce the attitude of Germany.
I will, too, received the support of the EP vice-president. After 41 days, I stopped my second hunger strike. I stopped it because I was promised official help: a high ranking German official said he would help, and the Belgian ministeries (justice and foreign affairs) assured me that they had understood the importance of the problem with Germany. Further, they had promised that, for Xmas (we were in August), I would see my daughter. For that, however, I had to stop my strike: "a parent willing to die through a hunger strike cannot get his/her child back », was I told... On the 22nd of december, I received a fax announcing that I would not see my daughter for Xmas, as my request, sent in August, was sent so late that it did not show that I really wanted to see my daughter.
To date, I still have not seen her, and I learn now that my daugher is accusing me of terrible things. She is under parental alienation. My story is not a lone one. In Belgium only, several organizations are fighting against the increasing phenomenon of international parental kidnapping. To name but a few: "Sos Rapt Parentaux", headed by Sultana Kouhmane, or "Solidarirapt", headed by Nancy André. March 10, a meeting took place, in Bolzano - Italy, in order to stress the attitude of Germany, which is, in Europe, children-wise, a hooligan-state. The meeting was initiated by a lady, whose children had been legally kidnapped from her by the Jugendamt. She had to kidnap them back, and the authoress Karin Jaeckel wrote the story.
For the launch of the book, were several parents whose children disappeared in Germany. Last Monday I see my daughter in tribunal, she didn't want to speak with me, she say that I am a bad mother, but for 3 years she love me, and we have got a beautiful times, now is different, she is different, I love my daughter, but she didn't trust anymore my love for her. |
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Happy Birthday Sammy! We still miss you terribly and think of you many times everyday. We wonder how you are, what your doing with your life, and most of ALL......what do you look like now? It is still very hard on all of us, especially your Daddy of course, not being able to see you and know you. Still hoping that some day we can all have a good solid relationship. Just know that tomorrow we will be thinking of you even more and sending you out good thoughts and wishes for a happy day! Love you more than you'll ever know sweetie!
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My wife left me Five years ago taking our children with her and we divorced eighteeen months later. I subsequently met someone else and we tried to build our lives around my three children, two daughters who are sixteen and fourteen and a boy who is just seven. It has been difficult because they live over two hundred miles away but I spoke to them everyday on the 'phone and saw them initially twice a month then once a month when their mum said that their behavior was bad after seeing me. We also spent some holidays together.
Early last year my ex decided that I couldn't see my son as I had fallen behind with Child Support payments due to unemployment. After two months we resolved the situation and I saw my son again. We decided to get married last July at the time we were to have the children. We didn't tell their mum as we felt she would stop them coming up. When she changed the arrangements for the week we had to tell her and she wasn't happy. We did have the children for the weekend of the wedding but two days after she decided that I could not see my son anymore as he had been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, a claim she had made four years previously. Months of negotiating with my ex's solicitor proved fruitless and I had no option but to apply to the court for contact.
It took six months for the courts to prepare a report but eventually the Judge ordered contact with both my son and fourteen year old daughter who I had been advised to include on the contact application. The court were critical of my ex as she had made my daughter aware of the proceedings and shown her statements and reports and this had affected my daughters attitude to me. Part of the order was that my ex was not to give my daughter any further details, which unfortunately she failed to do and now my daughter has stopped all communication with me. My ex has broken the contact order with regards to my son and now I fear he will be influenced in a similar way to my daughter as he gets older.
I cannot adequately describe my emotions. Genuine pain at being cut off from my childrens lives, hurt at being rejected by my daughter who I know still loves me but does not realise the influence she is under, anger at a legal system that claims to consider the childrens best interests but seems over taken by inefficiency and inertia and guilt over a new wife that has been unable to finish her honeymoon due to the actions of her husbands ex.These words are the best I can manage. The future? I suppose it will be more hoping and waiting for my daughter to contact me, more hoping that my son won't forget me, more letters to the court in the hope that the contact order will be enforced and more hoping that my new wife will put up with me long enough for this sorry mess to be sorted out. |
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I will never stop loving either of you
no matter what you say or do.
I remember all the happy times we had together
Please don't let them fade away from your minds forever.
The times we rode the waves at the beach,
are all those memories now out of reach?
The camping trips when you were small
and all the walks while in the mall.
The days you spent in our inflatable pool,
with all your friends you did keep cool.
Sledding down at Endicott park,
wearing your glow sticks in the dark.
Rollerblading day and night,
the times we tried to fly a kite.
The two mile hike up to lonesome lake
and all the goodies we loved to bake.
Skiing up at Bradford mountain,
floating under the mushroom fountain.
The Charlie Brown play at school,
Miss Chiquita Banana you sure did rule.
Planting gardens in the spring,
that silly song that began with ding.
The cards you made, the pictures you drew,
I proudly displayed for everyone to view.
These things and more I hold close in my heart
for they help me get through all the days we're apart.
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I HAVE BEEN DIVORCED FOR 5 YEARS NOW, MY TWO SONS LIVE WITH MY EX, BOTH AGED 11 AND 8. WE DIVORCED ON STUPID GROUNDS SUBMITTED BY MY EX, THERE WAS NO ADULTARY(NOT ON MY PART ANYWAY), I WASN'T A DRINKER OR WIFE/CHILD HITTER, THE REASONS WERE NOT WORTH A DIVORCE. I TRIED TO RECONSILE WITH HER, MAINLY FOR THE BOYS BUT TO NO AVAIL.
I STILL GOT ON WITH HER FAMILY, THEY SPOKE AND ASKED HOW I WAS, BUT SOME MONTHS LATER ALL THAT STOPPED. I WAS IGNORED, NOT ALLOWED TO GO TO THE DOOR OF THE HOUSE OF HER FAMILY. WHILE THIS HAPPENED MY EX WAS TELLING MY FAMILY THAT WHATEVER HAD GONE OFF BETWEEN US WAS OUR MATTER AND STILL WANTED TO BE FRIENDS, SOMETHING HER FAMILY DONT SEEM TO CONTINUE WITH. THEN IT WAS PARENTS OF MY SONS FRIENDS WHO IGNORED ME, WHEN I PICKED THEM UP FROM SCHOOL, THE PARENTS TURNED THERE BACKS ON ME OR LOOKED AT ME AS IF I WAS SOMETHING THEY HAD STOOD IN. MY YOUNGEST PLAYS IN A SUNDAY FOOTBALL TEAM AND I GO MAINLY TO WATCH HIM, AGAIN PEOPLE WHO DONT KNOW ME PERSONALY IGNORED ME OR WHEN I SPOKE TO THEM REPLIED IN A MANNER THAT THEY WISH THEY WASNT THERE. MANY SUNDAY MORNINGS I HAVE STOOD ALONE AT THE BACK OF GOAL WHILE MY EX STANDS WITH OTHER PARENTS CHATTING AND LAUGHING.
I HAVE FOUND OUT THAT A PRESENTATION NIGHT HAS BEEN BOOKED FOR THE TEAM, BUT I HAVE HAD NO INVITE, BY MY EX OR FOOTBALL TEAM ORGANISERS. FRIENDS I HAVE KNOW FOR YEARS HAVE NOW DISAPPERED, ONE EVEN ASKED ON THE PHONE WHO I WAS. THERE ARE TIMES I FEEL SO ALONE AND NOT WANTED THAT IF I WENT MISSING NO ONE WOULD CARE, BUT I CARRY ON FOR THE BOYS THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO DO. I HAVE LEARNT THAT MY EX HAS BEEN SPREADING LIES ABOUT ME, THAT I WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A 19 YEAR WHILE STILL MARRIED AND TRYING IT ON WITH THE BABY SITTER, BOTH UNTRUE BUT ONLY HER SIDE IS HEARD. I HAVE A SAYING NOW WHICH I USE TO PEOPLE WHO IGNORE ME AND IT IS, "PEOPLE SHOULD LEARN AND NOT JUDGE". DIVORCED LIFES FOR FATHERS IS NOT ALL HAPINESS AND FREEDOM, ITS ALSO SOLITUDE AND LONELINESS. |
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My Story : HI.I have just seen your website. Yes, I have a story to tell. You asked for details about the heartache, the pain, the hurt. That is so great. At last, the pain that is being endured is being recognized. I will send you details. But, if you want to look at a website, a poetry one, where one of the poets there, hearing about what had happened, responded - you will see a poem about me, and what I an alienated parent suffering terribly, did on Christmas Day, because the she - the mother - wouldn't allow me ANY CONTACT with my children. There is a terrible more to this. Perhaps you would like a web reference. Have a look at a poem written about me. I am the man the poem is about, and the children are mine. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
http://www.fanstory.com/displaystory.jsp?id=84166
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My Story : My ex ran off with another man in 1995 and has used the
children as weapons against me since then. I now have been banned from seeing my children and it is worse than death to lose your children and
not have any power to get them back. The system and courts in BC have
ruined my life and backed my ex and alienation perpetrators to no end.
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My Story : I am writing on behalf of my fiance. He has been
through many attempts to be aliented by his ex-wife. During their
divorce and custody battle, he was able to obtain many emails between
his soon to be ex-wife and a man she met off the internet and was
engaged to. In these emails they (ex-wife and fiance) made detailed
plans on how they were going to eliminate my fiance from his daughters
life, how they were going to set him up to be accused of sexual abuse so
he could never see him again and how they were grooming the child to
believe step-dad was her father. The courts entered the documents
(emails)and ordered mother to take a mental evaluation, to which she
failed and ordered into counseling, they also put a restraining order on
mother's fiance to never have ANY contact with daughter because of
things mother was going to allow him to do to daughter (body massages to
become closer to god, tickle time and times where he said mother would
lock her self in her room to pray for 2 hours each day, while he took
care of daughter and gave massages) Even after all of this she was able
to retain custody. After the divorce and currently she continues to with
hold visits, will not daughter talk to dad on phone, tells child that
dad is going to send her to jail and she will never see her mommy again,
constantly telling child that dad is Satan and ungodly, that our house
is unglodly. It is never ending the extremes that this woman goes to in
trying to undermine his relationship with his daughter. Withholds school
and medical infomation that is vital to her health and then tries to
turn dad in for not giving medicine, even though he was never informed
or given the medicine. I really wish the courts would wake up and she
the harm and suffering to these children at the hands of unhealthy parents. I wish your oganization the best and if I would love to start a
chapter in my area, as our court system in this area is very vaginized
and always favors towards the mother, no matter the evidence or
circumstances, action is currently in place to have all past cases
reivewed by another judge because of it
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My Story : Greetings! and thank you for having a site like this. Up
until this moment I have felt so alone with my case. FOC has told me to
just get a counselor to help me with parental alienation. Perhaps my
case will seem less exciting than others, but the truth is "It Hurts!"
My ex re-married, and I do see my 2 boys 5 and 9 every other weekend for
a 24 hr. period. The problem is that she has convinced the boys that the
new husband is dad... not me. That there last name is like the mothers,
not mine. They are quite open with calling him dad when they are here,
and call me by my 1st name or simply "hey". Now I am a grown man,
capable of handling the emotional hurt of these actions, by the way they
are identical to the same as her 1st childs dad... repitious behavior.
My real concern is for the boys. that this is a type of child abuse that
will have long lasting identity problems in the future. Emotional trauma
so to speak... FOC is no help. Any and all suggestions are welcome,
please write back if possible. I need to put this "mother" in her place,
and re-gain my rightful place as "Dad". Sincerely, A Dad with a passion
for his children. God Bless.
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My Story: I am currently involved in a custody case in the Michigan courts. My ex-husband is actively involved with alienating my children. The family appointments with the court appointed psychologist are now complete and I've already pestered him with messages since the last appointment, but now I'm more aware of PAS and I'd like to let him know that I believe my children exhibit all the signs of PAS. He knows of many of the details--should I trust that he knows what PAS is? Does anyone have advice on the best way to approach the expert on this matter? My children believe that my ex's money troubles are my fault. I just spent the weekend with the children, my son is 6 and daughter is 5. My son is actively involved with soccer with his father's inluence. My daughter has shown no interest in soccer, despite her father's insistence. When she asks to enroll in classes where HER interest lies (music or art) her father tells her he doesn't have money because of the divorce, and to ask me for the money. My son has gotten gifts of money from my side of the family, to pick out something for himself, and he says he wants to give it to his Dad because he has no money. The are frequently told to ask their mom for things they want. My children are afraid to tell me about their lives at their Dad's house. My daughter gave me a batch of pictures she created, and she was describing each to me. When she came to a page with two girls, she got very upset that it wasn't included and refused to talk about it. When I asked if it was her father's girlfriend, she said she wasn't allowed to talk about her with me. My daughter can no longer sleep independently--she sleeps in her Dad's bed at the age of 5 almost every night. When I try to talk to her about it, she says she's not supposed to talk about it. When she takes a shower, she always wants me to shower with her--she's afraid to shower alone. My son has moments when he is focused on a specific bad memory, that he says his father blames on me. When I try to soothe my son, he only says, "Dad says it is all YOUR fault" and continues to cry and refuses to listen to me. My children know details about the divorce and repeatedly ask me about them. My daughter cries and says "Why are you so mean to my Dad?" or "Why are you always fighting with my Dad?" They hear their Dad discussing the case and disparaging me with other people. I hope and pray that the courts will see what he is doing to our children and rule accordingly. |
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the last day i seen my grandson he said mammaw i'll love you for every and every no matter what happen's , I said i will you too. He and his little brother were adopted last sept 30th His adopted family just inform his mother he had a nervius break down the reason she was told about this she called to wish him a happy birthday and was told she could'nt talk to him.
The day they took his 11 year old sister away she was put in a shelter out of school for 6 months cps had no where else to put her her next home was in lock down with older teenagers, after a year there she has been in 36 foster care homes ran away 3 times only for police to pick her up and take her back the last time she ran away they put her in a home where she call me and said the foster dad pops beer cans open as he drives them to walmart. I gave her a ipod so it would go off at 8 o clock to remind her so we would be saying our hail mary's together the 18 teen year old daughter of the foster family took it, the reason my granddaughter knew this she would hear it go off in the girls room at 8 'o' clock every night.
On thankgiving she sat in the yard all day while the foster family and friends had dinner, after dinner she got a can of chicken noodle soup and was made to clean up the kithen. She said the water smells like dirty rotten eggs i've not seen her in over a year, and i have begged cps to let my grandkids live with me but they wont even talk to me.
The last time i talk to her she said mammaw i set in the yard watching for your gray thunderbird to come up the road and take me home. My grandkids are the world to me, the love they have in their little hearts for me a foster family can never replace, i hope they dont grow up to hate but i fear they will. This much i do know, they were loved and they knew love. I hope and pray that every state will have a ombudsman to investgate cps the family law judges and not take kids away from their home and loved ones on hear say's |
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I have witnessed parental alienation first hand by the mother of my husbands son. My husband) and his ex-wife were not married when their son was born, and as they were so young (19 and 22) their relationship broke down when their son was just a baby.
The boy is now 8 years old and for the whole of his life he has suffered this child abuse by his mother. Whenever my husband's ex-wife feels like it she stops contact between father and son. His son is extremely confused and gets upset by what is going on. I have heard my husband's ex-wife's fiance (who is an incredibly angry and violent man) refer to the child as "a f*cking c*nt" on many occasions in front of him, and one can only hope that these actions don't have any lasting damaging effect on my husband's son. |
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I am in Australia and am a victim of parental alienation. I left my husband due to domestic violence and I have a 12 year old daugher and 19 year old son still with my husband. It has been almost 8 months and I have had no contact with my daughter because she does not want any contact with me and my son repeatedly abuses me on the phone or text messages and says the same unless I go back.
I know that they have been influenced by their father as he has badmouthed me and responsible for turning them against me. He has done everything in his power to isolate my daughter from me as I was isolated from my family and friends for many years, including suicide threats and disappearing after the property is sold. I really fear for my children. I do have a 17 year old daugher with me because of the abuse she was experiencing also I discovered Parental Alienation approximately 2 months ago and have spend endless hours educating myself on this. I am having difficulty convincing attorneys, child protective services and schools as to the severity of this and the damage it is causing my daughter.
I have tried endlessly with letters, phone, text messages to contact my daughter but have not been successful. It will go to court soon and I fear that because she wants to stay with her father and have no contact with me that the courts will grant her wishes but I know deep down this is not what she really wants. No body is taking this serious and I am just devastated and don't know where to turn. I seem to come across as an overwrought mother and just hit a brick wall. Nobody is listening and it just breaks my heart. I will do anything to save my kids. Regards, Desperate mom. |
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I would happy to share my case to your parental alienation group, as I believe this new age sad & evil indictment for so many children should be exposed for the terrible tragedy it is.
I have been fighting the Courts since 2001, as I was the victim of false allegations of sexual abuse and domestic violence. As a result I get access to children is about 9 hours a year even though I have irrefutable evidence that I was a gentle & loving Dad who had strong and healthy bonds with both my daughters who were 8 & 6 before this nightmare started.
The Court is not interested in the truth and has never given the chance to put my side of the story, which will clearly show I am a victim of a huge miscarriage of justice. I have tried to get the Court to address the blatant parental alienation of my children however two court appointed psychologists will not address the issue as the New Zealand psychology board does not recognise the condition. I can prove the Court has acted with malice, negligence and maliciousness however with a corrupt judicial system I have no show of obtaining natural justice. I suppose the 14 criminal convictions and 6 permanent protection orders will remain around my neck until the hateful system finally slams in the final nail.
My kids can’t understand it as they tell me they love me heaps and just want to see much more of me. However when they go to see the lawyers which involves a two hour trip in the car they are programmed and poisoned by their mother, aunt, and maternal grand mother to say that they do not want to see Dad. These are the same people who orchestrated the lies of sexual abuse and domestic violence and I am powerless to do anything about it. I have had to face criminal charges due to false allegations every year since this major depressive episode started and appear again at the end of the month.
My health is suffering and doctors tell me that a stroke is inevitable even though I am on huge doses of heart medication & warfarin for a man who celebrates his 46 th birthday in May.
The justice system must listen to the damage of PAS and I will do anything that I can to get this condition recognised by the sick system. I am proud to be part a effort to try and expose this evil. i am in the family court tommorrow .
I will distribute flyers etc. in the Courthouse - politicans - lawyers - etc.... as they must acknowledge PAS and it harmful consequences for children and alienated non -custodial parents . |
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I am the step mother of a twelve year old girl who is the victim of parent alienation syndrome. She and our whole family have been suffering for so many years because of her mothers " hostile aggressive parenting".
My husband and I had no idea that there was actually a name for this until recently. We were commingcomming end of our rope literally until we learned that we were not alone. This child is like a prisoner of war.
She is exibiting if not all of the characteristic of PAS. She has been on a downward slide since her mother most recently has been forcing her to not have contact with us. We get to see her evry other weekend, for two days. That is not enough. We have been seeing her every day for the past three years, as we live two blocks away from her.
Before that it was every couple days. But every time her mother gets mad at us for something she takes away the "expanded parenting time". We have been to court and they are wll aware of her behavior but dont want to get involved, so she is being given even more power to inflict this abuse because it is being validated by the authorities.
The situation is getting worse over time. Everyone has been telling us that she wil realize the truth when she gets older but that is so wrong. It will be too late by then. She is like a victim of " stockholmes syndrome". She is very defensive of her mother even though the relationship between the two of them is bad. Her mother calls her a "fat ass, whore, ugly, c---, i hope you die, and i wish you were never born". The child has chronic asthma and her mother has 10 cats 2 dogs and also fosters animals through animal welfare. She was posting very innapropriate pics of this 12 yr old child on the internet and we filed a police report, contacted protective services, but they told us the pics were not pornographic so there was nothing we could do. This is the reason that we are now not allowed to see the child.
She lives so close and when we drive past her she is not even aloud to wave. She is not allowed to call us... nothing. So she went from comming over evry day after school until her mom got off work to now not comming over at all. We dont know where she is most of the time. We do know that she is without adult supervision for those two hours every day. She has been in trouble almost every day at school, exibiting very bulliing behaviors like trapping other grils in the bathroom, name calling, etc. These behaviors are her way of having SOME control since her life is so OUT OF CONTROL. Her mother lets her talk on the phone and stay on the computer for how ever long she wants, she has no bed time, no homework time, no structure at all. She is failing every class right now. We have pleaded with the school, protective services,& the police to help us. We hear the same thing from all of them, "does she have any marks or bruises?" And they say that if she has no marks there is nothing they can do.
The sad thing is that they dont understand that she does have marks and bruises but they are on the inside. Those injuries take the longest to heal. She is being destroyed by the one person who is supposed to nuture and protect her. The job that a parent is supposed to do is promote a happy healthy life for them, to teach them to love and respect others, to strive to do well in school and everything in life. In the work force if you are nto doing your job you get fired. These parents should be FIRED. and they should be held accountable for the ABUSE that they have inflicted and they should be exposed. The world needs to see them just like the pedifiles,rapists,murderers, and all other criminals. These people are murdering the souls of there own children. They need to be STOPPED. |
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The worst divorces present cases of false claims of abuse, neglect and violence. My divorce had all three as well as fraud in the inducement of the marriage itself. My Orange County, California Court has refused to do anything thus far to help me. The matter is five years of litigation old and I have succumbed to the pressure. I recently acted like a man and said something inappropriate. This was very unlawyer like of me, but very dad like or typical.
My vulgar language came as a result of having real estate stolen on a lies and kids used as pawns to get the real estate. These lies included the false arrests of myself and my father. My typical behavior should not be used to create fatherless children. How dare my father and I break the door down to my own house after she refuses to let us in-is what my exwife thought. Months later, we are both arrested for this insult.
Retaliation is so easy with a VAWA in its present form. All she has to do is report DV, I'm arrested. Because there is a prior, all future DV calls are treated like a need for a SWAT team. Law enforcement gets no reward ever for stopping DV fraud. They have no time to prosecute for fraud or perjury. Or so they have told me. |
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I have been divorced for less than 1 year and seperated for almost 2 years. The decision to divorce my ex-wife was not based on our relationship so much as my relationship with my daughter, as many say they "stayed together for the kids." I wanted my daughter to see her father and mother happy and not miserable and therefore made my decision.
My ex-wife has since used my daughter as a pawn in the ugly aftermath to gain financially while in the meantime withheld my daughter from our once close loving relationship. Visitation has really only begun since the divorce was finalized. Some examples of her attempt to alienate my daughter from me and present me as a bad father me are as follows:
1. attempted to move from New mexico to Kentucky.
2. Have called to speak with my daughter and was told "she is in the shower." Upon arriving at her house within 2 minutes, found my daughter playing in her room and unbathed. The bathroom was completely dry.
3. Applying for free lunches at her school although I pay $1105 a month in child support and $400 a month in alimony and my ex wife lives with her parents. She pays no utilities or rent and she works full time as a medical assistant and EMT.
4. I recently went to England and sent my daughter 2 post cards. She never received either one. Everyone else received their post cards. They live in a very small town of less than 2000 people and I spoke to the postmaster who remembers getting the post cards and putting them in their mail box.
5. I have had to get Tee ball schedules from other parents because I was denied copies from my ex-wife.
6. I had to get the school to forward me report cards because my ex refuses to provide them. Most importantly for my daughter is that she has a seperate folder for mom and dad to relay information.
None of the other 19 kids have this problem and is embarrasing for my daughter. I could go on and on about phone calls and other activities, but these are just some of the examples. It has caused heartache and dispare for both of us. I just wish the madness would stop. It is sensless, hurtful and unnecessary. I just want my daughter to have two healthy parents who can co-parent and raise a well adjusted child, but parental alienation destroys any possibility of that.
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My story is horrific as it goes against all morales and values therefore, going against our Constitution.
1. Not providing materially or financially.
2. Quit Employment - Intentional
3. Flee Florida owing over $10 grand. - FELONY
4. Kidnaps children - FELONY
5. Alienates children with assistance from government. - APPROVED!
My story screams out the truth about the mafia type system we live in and points out the sickening corruption in the very officials who are duty bound to protect us from being victimized. Angry? You Bet! Dissapointed? Very much so. Today, my children and I are at war and do not speak. The hope is I understand TRUTH. The day it becomes acceptable to teach children to disrespect and dishonor and to allow injustices to go unpunished is the day we the people of our country are no longer free. My continuous quote throughout my entire ordeal "KNOW YOUR ROLE - AND FULFILL IT"
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I am a targeted NC mother. I live in Missouri and my 10yr old daughter lives in Houston. I can not even begin to touch, what PA has done to destroy my relationship with my daughter. I found your site, and I want to do WHATEVER I can, my close friends and family too, to help my daughter and all other children and parents. I have a fire in my belly that has finally pushed me to speak out and bring awareness to PA. Missouri is still behind on PA, but my case is now in Harris County, and I am ready to fight for my daughter!
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In March 2003 my now ex-husband reluctantly left after I asked him to give me some space & needed to get well after a severe depression as we were about to lose our house & become bankrupt & he had refused to take responsibility of this & left me to sort it along with the care of the children. Other issues were involved too.
Within a month of him leaving he refused to have any contact with the children whatsoever & told me to give him a good reason to see them. As months went on the situation did not change with refusals from him to attend any school functios or parents evenings. These actions affected my youngest son & suffered severe anger problems as a result. His school has been very understanding of the situation & he has since settled well although it has been a long road for him.
My attempts to tell his father about his behaviour was doing to his son was met with hostility & blame to me saying that he wouldn't have behaved in this way had I not told him to leave. Now it is March 2006 & the situation remains the same along with keeping them short on child support with no way of contacting him about this. We have gained strength from this & am determined for it not to let it affect my children adversely & have tried to carry on with their lives & mine as normally as possible. Any anger I have felt has since been replaced with sadness/pity for their father as he has totally lost the love & respect of 2 beautiful children as family is all there is at the end of the day. Thank you. A-UK |
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My story: I know of a child who sees her father once a week for one hour. The parents are in the process of a divorce. The child is 5-years old and she goes into different behaviors prior to visits and after visits. Visits are supervised at a center. When with her father, she hugs and shows affection for her dad. She has a good time during visits. How do you explain her behavior before and after visits. She is mean to everyone, (her little sister and her mother). She has nightmares and screams at night just prior to visits. Her little sister was potty trained, now she wet and soil her underwear. Is this a sign of parental alienation? |
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I have three children from three different mothers. My first child was taken out of the country in 1971, against court orders and no one would help. That child found me in July of 2000, 29 years later. There is no relationship.
My second child disappeared with her mother in 1980 against court orders and no one would help. I had a total custody order and the county sheriff refused to enforce it, I have never been able to find that child, she is now 30 years old.
My youngest child is 13 I have a total custody order for her the courts refuse to enforce. She is at the beginning of stage three PAS. I want to get her into counseling but can not get the courts to help. They have refused to hear my motions and have violated no less than 18 state and federal laws to prevent me from having custody and have allowed her to be moved 2200 miles away. I obtained a total change of custody order from the original decree court by default when the mother had been properly served for the hearing and refused to appear.
I filed the complaint with the original court because the child had been move seven times without any notice and from state to state in less than three years. The original court had a contract in the original divorce decree to maintain continuing jurisdiction. The issues were 6 separate issues of contempt of the original custody visitation orders. Even by vacuum jurisdiction the original court was the only court that could exercise subject matter jurisdiction. The enforcing court admits it did not have subject matter jurisdiction in the orders it wrote, refusing enforcement of the orders from the original decree court.
The enforcing court stated " I do not like that law and will do as I see fit in my court" and refused to register the foreign judgment, the new order was dated January 05,2004 and the enforcing courts order was dated January 09,2004. Court ruling March 19,2004, upheld lower court ruling, in a hearing to register a foreign judgement, Stating that nothing was proven against the mother, that hearing took place in the original decree court, the enforcing court has no right to question the ruling of the issuing court and is requird by law to enforce the change of custody order. I can prove this courts action was willful and malicious and no body will help.
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Although I had restraining orders against my former attorney spouse, preventing him from injuring our daughter; when I insisted they be enforced, I was put on Supervised visitation, because my con continued talking about his abuse, (and the court-appointed psychologist stating his abuse must be addressed), the judges thought otherwise.
So I wound up "sentenced" to Supervised Visitation. That's when I discovered the woman running the center, was a con artist. Three cover stories later, it's been well reported, and yet Nothing changes. I haven't seen, written, or spoken to my daughter in Five years. She is fully alienated, as is my son.
The judges know family court and the custody industry is all commerce, all the time. The mantra being:"this is in the best interests of the children." There's an attorney and therapist around every corner. |
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My story is perhaps a typical one of two parents splitting up and one being angry with the other. Although i can see the anger and the differing effects divorce has on different people, i cannot excuse the behaviour of my ex wife when it comes to mentally abusing myself and the use of children as pawns in an emotional battle she has instigated.
I have been told i am a loser, a joke, and many names you couldnt print in any publications! all in front of my 2 children. I have been physically assaulted, had an iron,drill,pots and pans all thrown at me,kicked and punched, all in front of the children.I have been threatened, to the point where she has said she would lie in front of court judges and tell them i have been both mentally and physically abusing her and the kids. I have been told by my children that mummy says daddy doesnt love them any more,doesnt care about them, doesnt want to be with them, all of which i have to rebuild faith and trust with my children again,and every time i see them. to see the heartache on there faces as mummy continuously berates daddy whenever she picks them up from my place is terrible.
All i want is for my children to grow up with a healthy love for both parents, but the picture of what they know as "daddy" is being painted a very different colour by the childrens mother. My ex wife has new partner living in the house with her and the children, and still continues to verbally abuse me in front of them as they tell me all about it when they are with me. Even in front of other parents at school, calling of names and trying to belittle anything i say. I am made of strong stuff,and will not let her get to me. But,i'm afraid the children have to live with the images of there mothers anger towards me forever. which is something they shouldnt have to do! I have a new girlfriend now, who the children enjoy being with when were all together, and have great affection for.
She has my 100% trust regarding being with the children, as my ex wifes new live in partner must also have with her. We have been threatened, abused, and the latest trick was to send me a text message accusing my gf of being a child molestor!! My solicitors act on things when i ask them but the abuse is continuous and doesnt seem to ease. And finally, perhaps the most frightening of all, is my ex wifes job! She carries out all this angry abusive behaviour, emotional abuse of the kids and continuous alienation of me, when she in fact gets paid by the national health service to manage cases of child and adolescent mental health, and is reponsible for the counselling of such patients. How can she carry on like this in her private life and provide the sort of help that young adults and children need!?
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